كلنا TRAUMA - علياء و مؤمن زعبل - EP 13 S3

بودكاست هو وهي تاكست

Podcast is "He" and "She" Text.

تونس في بودكاست معايا

Tunisia in a podcast with me.

دي حيا

This is a life.

عمركم عملتها

Have you ever done it?

مرحبا بك في هو وهي تاكست

Welcome to He and She Text.

بش نحكيه برشا مواضيع

Let's talk about many topics.

فرحانة انو

I'm happy that

العنصر الرجالي

The male element.

موجود في هو وهي تاكست

Available in He and She Text.

خاطر اسم هو وهي

Khater is a name, both he and she.

وبش ناخذ ورايك في برشا مواضيع

Let me take your opinion on many topics.

خلينا نفكروا ناس هكا عاتيني هكا

Let’s think about people like this, give me like this.

فكرة صغيرونة

A tiny idea.

انا نعرفك كصناعة محتوى

I know you as a content creator.

نعرفك كالريفرنس

We know you as the reference.

متاع

goods

السفاريات مبين تونس ومصر

The pilgrimage between Tunisia and Egypt.

ننصحكم بالحق كيكم

We advise you to speak the truth.

كيكم متعرفوش الكونت بتاع مؤمن

Do you not know the account of Moamen?

لازمكم تمشيو تدخلو على مؤمن

You need to go and visit Moamen.

زهبل على الانستغرام على اليوتيوب

"Check it out on Instagram and YouTube."

ولقيت عندك على الفيسبوك جاوك به

I found you on Facebook, they told me about you.

وعاو تيك توك

And about TikTok.

بتبيع عد الله خير تيك توك

Are you selling Allah's goodness on TikTok?

مع انه تمكسر الدنيا في تيك توك

"Even though the world has shattered on TikTok."

تشوفو البلاتفورمز متاعه الكل

You see all of his platforms.

تدخلو وتكتشفو عالم مؤمن

You enter and discover a believer's world.

بكله اللي بالحق تلقوا فيه

"With everything, you will find it in the truth."

دي بان بلان خارقين للعادة

The De Ban plan is extraordinary.

لكن احنا اليوم باش نهز مؤمن

But today we are going to take Moamen.

صديقي في كوتي اخر

My friend is in another place.

في جو اخر

In another atmosphere.

في جو العلاقات

In the atmosphere of relationships

لكن الاحقيقة ما كانش

But the reality was not.

مع انك كنت نجم نجيب طبيب نفسي

Although you were a star, you were a psychiatrist.

مختص

Specialist

هكا بلونيت هكا

Like this, in this color.

فليه قلت مؤمن

Why did you say believer?

صحيح

That's correct.

قلت مؤمن لانو

I said it's because of the believer.

تبرك الله عليك

Blessings of God be upon you.

في صناعة المحتوى وفي

In content creation and in

يعني في الفايب اللي تعطيها

It means in the vibe that you give off.

حبيتها تكون حاضرة معانا

I loved having her present with us.

البودكاست

The podcast

وحبيت بالحق شخص قريب

And I truly loved a close person.

من عمرنا

From our age

وان بلوس

And Plus

الاحقيقة

The truth

الاحقيقة الاحقيقة زيدا

The truth, the truth, Zaid.

هي فهم حاجة عملتها انت

It is an understanding of a need you created.

في تونس

In Tunisia

ايوة

Yes

الحق دي قبل المشاكل

Right before the problems.

انا خديتها من

I took it from.

الجانب الايجابي

The positive side

مهمنيش فيهم اللي يعملوا المشاكل

I don't care about those who create problems.

يعملوا الكومنتز مهمنيش

The comments don't concern me.

انا خديت فيها الجانب الايجابي

I took the positive side of it.

اللي هو الفايب اللي انت اعطيتها

That is the vibe that you gave.

وال

Wale.

والانرجي اللي اعطيتها في صناعة المحتوى

And the energy I put into content creation.

هذيكا

That one.

شفنا شكل اخر في شخصيتك

We saw another side to your personality.

فنحبه يظهر اكثر في البودكاست

So we would like him to appear more in the podcast.

فقلت اذيك علش مؤمن

So I said to him, "Why are you a believer?"

الاخر مؤمن

The other is a believer.

حسنا مؤمن

Okay, Moamen.

حمدل

Praise be to God.

يلا

Let's go.

احكينا

Tell us.

نبدأ من في

We start from in.

ابدأي الساعة

Start the clock.

اختصار صغيرون

A little abbreviation.

على اختصاصك انت

It depends on your specialization.

في

In

تمام

Okay

في

in

بخليف صناعة المحتوى اللي حكينا عليها

Regarding the content creation that we discussed.

مع انت

With you.

تمام

Great.

طيب انا مؤمن

Okay, I am a believer.

نص مصري نص تونسي

Egyptian text, Tunisian text.

29 سنة

29 years old

برج السلطان

Sultan Tower

رفا لكي

Rafa for you.

كل عام انت حايب خير

Every year you are a source of goodness.

درست عن حاجة

I studied about a need.

بداية دراستي ان انا اختصيت

At the beginning of my studies, I specialized.

كنت عايز ادرس حاجة تساعد الناس

I wanted to study something that helps people.

كنت عايز اشتغل

I wanted to work.

انا كنت مطبع من صغري في مجالات اغاثية

I have been involved in relief work since my childhood.

ومش اغاثة كهو كانت وقتها مصر

"And it wasn't just relief, that was Egypt at that time."

بقى فترة السنوية العامة

It remained the period of the general year.

اللي هي الباك في تونس كانت فترة ثورة في مصر

The baccalaureate in Tunisia was during the revolution in Egypt.

وكان في مظاهرات كتير

There were many demonstrations.

وكان في ناس مصابين كتير وناس بتموت

There were many injured people and people dying.

وناس وناس وناس

People and people and people.

وكم بقى البلدان

And how many countries remain?

بقى الحواريك بحصل فيهم في تطورها زي ليبيا

The situation of the rebels is developing like that of Libya.

حصلن فيه لاجريجين

There were graduates in it.

كتير جاوا وناس كانت بتموت ومش لقى

A lot of people came, and some were dying, and they couldn't find.

يأتاكوا وكلام دا كله فكل دا كان هي

They come to you, and all this talk was about her.

عوامل نفسية خلاتني ان انا انا عايز

Psychological factors made me want to.

ادرس حاجة هي علاقة بالصحة النفسية

I study something related to mental health.

وحبيت مش عايز ابعدابتور

"I loved it; I don't want to move away."

انا عايز ادرس حاجة هي علاقة بالصحة نفسية

I want to study something related to mental health.

كملت الباك بتاعي

I completed my high school diploma.

من وين في الباك اصلا بديت ان انا حتى اتطوع مع الهيرم احمد وكنت تقريبا خنائة اصلا مع اهلي اللي هو يبني وانت زيكر

Where did I even start with the volunteer work with Ahmed the hero? I was actually almost in a fight with my family, which is about him building, and you mentioned.

اللي انت بتروح وتطوع ده كنت مثلا برجع البلاي اللي كنت اصغر واحد فيهم كأنه هو ولد صغير بيجي بيساعدنا

What you go and volunteer for, I used to return the play when I was the youngest among them, as if he were a little boy coming to help us.

خدت كورس في الاول بتاع الفرست ايد اللي صافت الاولية تعمل المتاهة

I took a course in first aid that the primary first aid basics teach.

في الفترة هذيك

During that period.

في الفترة انت على الباك

During the period, you are in the baccalaureate.

اوكي وفي الفترة هذيك فما اصحابك ولا اصدقائك ولا من عائلتك ناس مثلا عندهم مشاكل عاطفية عندهم مشكلة يجي يعني انت يحكي لك تسمعه ولا ليه

Okay, during that time, did you have friends or family members who had emotional problems, who would come to talk to you and you would listen, or not?

بدت مع الجامعة

She appeared with the university.

اه في الجامعة اوكي

Oh, at the university, okay.

تمام دي بقى فترة الباك اللي هو

This is the period of the baccalaureate, which is...

اوكي مازلنا في الباك

Okay, we are still in the back.

دخلت بقى في الجامعة بسم الله ما شاء الله كانوا بيدونا ايه عندك تست لازم تدور على واحد عنده مشاكل نفسية كذا كذا كذا

I entered the university, and by the grace of God, they were telling us that you need to find someone who has psychological problems such and such and such.

فمثلا انا بقى لاقي وانسان واحد صاحبي عنده المشكلة النفسية دي ما روحش اقوله انك عندك مشكلة نفسية

For example, if I find a friend of mine who has this psychological issue, I wouldn't go and tell him that he has a psychological problem.

اقول محمد بقولك مش حاسس عايزين نتكلم كده شوية

I say, Muhammad, I'm telling you I don't feel well, we want to talk a bit like this.

بتبع محمد اه لخاطر انتو ما ثلاثة اربعكم انتو محمد في مصر

I follow Mohamed, oh for your sake, you are not three, all four of you are Mohamed in Egypt.

محمد عبد الرحمن

Mohammed Abdul Rahman

اه يوسف

Oh Joseph.

اه واحمد طبعا معروف

Oh, and Ahmed is of course well-known.

معروف معروف خلينا خليه دكوت ايه ذيك احمد ايه

"Known, known, let it be, yes that is Ahmad, yes."

ايه

Yes.

فالمهم بقى اللي حصل ان انا بقولك مش حاسس ايه يتكلم نحسك متداهق كده ما تغضوا ايه

The important thing is what happened is that I'm telling you I don't feel anything, you talk as if you're upset like this, don't get angry.

وهو يتكلم وانا بكتب ريبورت اللي اتجمع هسال لهم بعد كده

He is talking while I am writing the report that has been gathered; I will ask them later.

فبس فبدأت دراستي دراستي اختصيت في الاضطرابات النفسية والانفعالية

So I started my studies, specializing in psychological and emotional disorders.

اللي ده الاطفال والكبار

This is for children and adults.

اوكي تمام

Okay, fine.

بدأت بس اول طبعا فاتت اول سنتين دراسة كانت بنا بندرس الاطفال والتطور النفسي اللي ممكن يسبب لهم هم اكبر

I started with the first two years of study, where we were studying children and the psychological development that could cause them greater issues.

انت بتدرس الطفل من هو عنده سنتين لحد لما يكبر لان بسبب التشكيل الاولي النفسي يترتب عليه باقي حياته

You are teaching the child from the age of two until he grows up because the initial psychological formation will determine the rest of his life.

اوكي

Okay

واحنا بقى بقى سنتين بقى سنين بقى اللي بعدها بقى ايه نختص بقى في الامراض النفسية

And we have been for two years, and then what about the following years? Let's specialize in mental illnesses.

الجزء يعني ايه نرجسية يعني ايه فرويد فرويد حبيب قلبي طبعا وحبيب كل الملايين في الجزء النفسي

What does the part mean? What does narcissism mean? Freud, my dear, of course, and the beloved of millions in the psychological aspect.

تسلموا على احباء فرويد

Say hello to Freud's loved ones.

احباء فرويد لاجل رابطت احباء فرويد

Freud's lovers for the sake of the bond of Freud's lovers.

فدي الجزء دي ففترة مع فترة مع تجربة مع تجربة

I redeemed this part during a period with an experience with an experience.

يعني في مثلا فاكرة دي حاجة عمر منساكن عنا عندي مادة مادة في الجامعة اوكي متير

I mean, for example, I remember this thing; it's been a long time since we've had someone living with us. I have a subject in university, okay, it's exciting.

التريميستة كاملة انت عندك حالة بتتابع معاها لمدة 3 اربع شهور

The trimesters are complete; you have a condition that you have been monitoring for 3 to 4 months.

ولهذا في الخدمة بتاعكم يصير ما انت تنجم تقعد مع شخص 3 او 4 شهور

And that's why in your service, you can sit with a person for 3 or 4 months.

تتابع في اضطراباته النفسية ولا في المرض متاعه ولا

He continues in his psychological disturbances, nor in the miseries of his illness.

على حسب

It depends.

على حسب لانك انت برضو انت بتمارس حاجة زي دي انت غير مخول لسه

It depends because you are also practicing something like this; you are not authorized yet.

انت في حد بيتابع معاك بيبقى موجود معاك في السنة

Is there someone following up with you, who is present with you throughout the year?

بس هي بتبقى حاجة مش مشكلة نفسية كبيرة

But it ends up being something that isn't a big psychological problem.

اوكي

Okay

بعد ما خلصت الكلام ده دراستي طبعا اختصيت بقى ان انا بقى ادرس و بشتغل في الجزء الانساني

After I finished all this talk, I focused on my studies and started working in the humanitarian sector.

وبساعد ناسا في الجزء اللي هو الإغاثي

And I help NASA in the relief part.

الإغاثي

Relief

بضبط فهي قراءة بتساعد خدمة و خدمة بتساعد قراءة فالاتنين بيكملوا بعض

Exactly, it is a reading that helps service and service that helps reading, so both complement each other.

طب انا بس اللي عجبني دلوقتي ان انا لما ادرست كان لما بقول لحد انت بتدرس على الصحة النفسية ولا حاجة

Well, what I liked now is that when I studied, when I used to ask someone if they were studying mental health or something.

اقول لك انت دكتور مجنين

I tell you, you are a crazy doctor.

تبتع مجنين

You follow the crazy ones.

طبعا

Of course.

تدرس مجرد نفسية

Studying merely psychology.

طبعا الفكرة المعنطية

Of course, the concept of death.

اي

Which

وانت تلاقيك من عشرتك معهم بيت مجنون زيهم

"And you find yourself in their company, a house as crazy as they are."

توا احنا توفي 2024 والحمدلله من اكثر المواضيع البحثا على المعنطية المواقع البحث هي الصحة النفسية

We are now in 2024, and thank God, one of the most searched topics on research sites is mental health.

اليوم الناس كل تحكي صحة نفسية

Today, everyone is talking about mental health.

بالزبط

Exactly.

وعلى سبب الصحة النفسية و الصحة العقلية لكل واحد

And for the sake of mental health and psychological well-being of each individual.

لو قصدك على البرنامج اللي انا صورته فاللي يعرف مؤمن ويشتاق تابع المحتوى بتابعه هيعرف مين انا كنت بحظر

If you're referring to the program I recorded, then anyone who knows Moamen and follows his content will know who I was blocking.

بحظر نتيجة اي

By prohibiting the result of any.

جدا

Very.

نتيجة كم حاجة كانت حصلت هناك خلتني مش عايز اكمل الحلقة فقلت ان انا مش هاخدها بقى بصورة جدية فانا هحظر وعدت حظر

The result of a few things that happened there made me not want to continue the episode, so I said that I wouldn't take it seriously anymore, so I blocked it and I had blocked.

واذاك اللي صار

And that’s what happened.

وعدت حظر معا بقى شغل المونتاج معا اي واحد زكي بيتفرج وبيفهم في الاجتماع

I promised to ban any editing work with anyone smart who watches and understands the meeting.

بتبيعه

Are you selling it?

كان واضح

It was clear.

ولو حد برضو بيفهم شوي هيقدر ان هو يكبتي التوقيت اللي نزلت فيه الحلقة يعني مثلا انا على سبيل المثال الحلقة دي لما نزلت الناس على اليوتيوب بتشتمني مش بتشتم مؤمن هي بتشتم مصر بتشتم الحكومة بتشتم الرئيس الدولة بتشتم في كل حاجة

And even someone who understands a little will be able to suppress the timing of when the episode was released. For example, when this episode was released, people on YouTube were insulting me, not just insulting Moamen; they were insulting Egypt, insulting the government, insulting the president, and insulting everything about the state.

كانت فما ظروف معاينة واحد

What were the circumstances for examining one?

بالطبع

Of course.

واللي يدخل على الانستجرام هيدخل على كامت مؤمن

Whoever enters Instagram will find the account of Moamen.

هلاقيني من هذا الفيديو متعمين متعماتش الكورة ومتعمات ترجي ومتعمات هيسكت

I don’t understand this video; it’s about not playing football and not dealing with those who don’t play football and won’t stop.

ايه

Ayah

بس

Just.

الحمدل

Praise be to God.

اتلعب بنا بدنا نلعب وبنتلاعب عادي

You're playing with us; we want to play, and it's normal for us to play around.

عادي

Normal.

نلعب نكسب وبنخسر عادي

We play, we win, and we lose; it's normal.

وليه وانا لا حقيقة ذاك الكل شفته وخذرت له وريته وعملته سكيب لانه عندي برشا احترازات علي صار لكن انما شفت فيها كان الفايب الحلوة اللي حبيتها اللي قلت انا بشنجيب مؤمن على خاطر فما فايب بحسيتها نجم تتحط في قالب اخر نجم نحكيه فيه

And why should I, when I saw all of that and prepared for it, I showed it, and I treated it with caution because I have many reservations about what happened. However, I only sensed the beautiful vibe that I loved, the one I said I would bring `Moamen` for, because there was a vibe that I felt could fit into another mold that I can talk about.

وهذا هو اللي حبيتو يصير

And this is what I wanted to happen.

اكيد

Sure.

يعني مش حلقتي بس ده كل الحلقات اللي موجودة احنا عارفين والاتنين لسه عارفين بعض بقى لهم ساعة ولا ساعتين طلوة سفرية مع بعض انت ما عندكيش اهل وما عندكيش اهل وانت ما عندكش شغل ما عندكش شغل

I mean, it's not just my episode, but all the episodes that are available. We know, and the two of us have just known each other for an hour or two, going on a trip together. You have no family, and you have no family, and you have no job; you have no job.

يا حق صدقتك انا كده خلاص بيت مجنون

Oh right, I believed you. I'm done; it's a crazy house now.

والله هي دخلة بيه للي بيش نحكيه وهم عناتها

"By God, this is a matter I want to talk about, and it's quite serious."

ولينا نتسرعوا في العلاقات ولا ولينا ناخدوا برشة وقتنا في العلاقات

We either rush into relationships or we take a long time in relationships.

الناس بتكبر بترومة بسمعيش كده

People grow older, but they don't listen like that.

الناس بتكبر بترومة انت عندك ترومة انها صغيرة لان سمحني معلش

People grow with trauma; you have the trauma that it's small because excuse me, forgive me.

هنتكلم على الجيل من مواليد التسعين لحد الالفين

We will talk about the generation born from the nineties until the two thousand.

حلو دي فترة كويسة

This is a good time.

وانت عندك عشر سنين عمرك حد من اهلك جي وقال لك تعال وديك عندك اخصائي نفسي

When you were ten years old, did any of your family come and say to you, "Come, I will take you to a psychologist"?

قليل قليل جدا نادرجا

Very few, very rare.

اديني percentage انا بحب الارقام انا بموت في الارقام اديني percentage

Give me the percentage, I love numbers, I am crazy about numbers, give me the percentage.

مكسيموم مكسيموم ثماني بالمية

Maximum maximum eight percent

فانت بتخيل بقى واحد بقى طب سؤال بقى

So, imagine someone, well, here's a question then.

احنا مؤخرا بقينا بنسخة

We recently became a version.

الناس مع القضايا غريبة جدا زي التحرش زي الاعتداءات الضرب

People with issues are very strange, like harassment and assault.

والتحرش حتى احيانا بيجي برضو من من اقارب تمام الناس ما بقتش

And harassment sometimes also comes from relatives; people have changed.

بتبلغ عنه غير دلوقتي ليه عشان الناس بقت عندها القدر ان هي

"You are reporting him now why? Because people have gained the ability to..."

تتكلم ولو هتكلم وهيخطوا على الموضوع هنزل على السوشال ميديا

She talks, and if she talks, they will step into the subject, and I will go down on social media.

فالناس بتكبر بترومة ما حدش بيعرفها ايه اللي بيحصل الشخص ده

People grow up with traumas that no one knows what is happening to that person.

بيكبر بيجوزوه جواز تقليدي بالمصري بيقولوه جواز صالو نطر

He grows up and they marry him off in a traditional Egyptian marriage, which is called "salon nter" marriage.

كي ما احنا عانا في تونس نزوج تقليدي بزب الراجل او الست بيبقى

As we have in Tunisia, the traditional marriage between a man and a woman remains.

عندو ترومة بيكبرو بيهو بتتنقل مين لا ولا دهو بطريقة غير

He has a trauma that is being amplified by him, and it is being transmitted in an unusual way.

متعمدة فالمشكلة بالاساس بتبدأ من التكوين والتشكيل هتش حتى

The problem fundamentally starts from the formation and shaping, it will even...

لما قلت لك لما كنت بدأت اول سنتين بنتدرس على التشكيل النفسي

When I told you that the first two years were focused on psychological formation.

والتكوين النفسي للطفل اللي بيتعرض لكذا حاجة بيتعرض للضرب

The psychological formation of a child who is exposed to various things, including being subjected to violence.

انا ما فيش حد ما نضربش في المدرسة عشان نبقى بصريحين موليد

I haven't met anyone who hasn't been punished in school, to be straightforward, it's normal.

بالضبط اللي انا بحددها دلوقتي طب دلوقتي انا هضرب واحد

Exactly what I am specifying now. Now, I will hit one.

موليد الفين وخمسة انا هصورك وانا هعمل لك وانا هنزل لك وانا

I was born in 2005, I will take your picture, I will do this for you, and I will download this for you, and I...

ما يخليكش اصلا انت ده بالعكس ممكن يضربه التاني طالب يضربه

It doesn't make you at all; on the contrary, the other student might hit him.

لان الثقافة هنا بقى فيه بقى معانا عدم بقى كم حاجة بتحصل في

Because the culture here has resulted in a lack of many things happening.

المختلف التكوين بقى الاخلاقي والتكوين بقى اللي هو بقى في

The different formation remained moral, and the formation that became what it is now.

سوشال ميديا انك انت ممكن تريبورت ومعليش انا اسف السوشال

Social media, you might trip, and I'm sorry about that, social.

ميديا انا شايفها اكبر حاجة كانت ساعدت وحلت مشاكل كتير اهمهم

Media, I see it as the biggest thing that has helped and solved many problems, the most important of which are...

واكبرهم انت لو عندك مشكلة انت لو عندك موهبة نجم تحكي نجم توصل

And you are the biggest one; if you have a problem, if you have a talent, a star, you can become a star.

عندك المساحة اللي بتعمل ده بقى كي نلقي مع مع كلامك لكلنا كبرنا

You have the space to do this so we can all grow up with your words.

بترومة كي قدمنا شوية وبدنا نخوض وفي علاقاتنا العاطفية وكل احنا

We quickly moved forward and started to delve into our romantic relationships, all of us.

هزينا الترومة هذيكة وحطيناها في وسط علاقة لكلنا ولا بالتفاوت

We shook that turuma and placed it in the middle of a relationship where we all are, albeit with differences.

ولا شنية نوعية الترومة اللي نجم نعديها اذا كان الكلنا بترومة

What kind of trauma can I go through if we all have trauma?

شنية الترومة اللي نجم نعديها وهل كل قعد اللي صاير هذيه هل طريقة

What is the term that I can use, and is everything that is happening a method?

العلاقات اليوم متاع الفين واربعة وعشرين اللي فيها ما يهمنيش

Relationships today in 2024 don't concern me.

وفيها تسيب وفيها نجم اليوم نحكي معاك وبعد بعد شهر نعمل روحي

In it, there is carelessness, and today we’re talking with you, and after a month, I will take care of myself.

كايني مراكش هل هالتسلسل هذيه جايم الترومة هذيكة اكيد طبعا انا

Is there a Marrakech? Is this sequence just a part of that theme? Of course, it's me.

اقولك انا حاجة مش شاني اللي

I'm telling you something that doesn't concern me.

كنت لسه بشوف شو السوشال ميديا انا في مرة دخلت علاقة مع واحدة

I was just checking social media; I once got into a relationship with a girl.

كانت واخدها الانستجرام ريفرنس لها لكل حاجة عايزة اروح دكتور

She was using Instagram as a reference for everything whenever she wanted to see a doctor.

هاروح هافتح الانستجرام هشوف كده دكتور عايزة اعمل شهر عسل هافتح

I'm going to open Instagram now, I want to see a doctor because I want to plan a honeymoon, I'll open it.

طب الناس بتورن على السوشال ميديا الجزء الحلو وحدة بيوري جزء النفسي

People are showing off on social media; the sweet part is that one shows the psychological aspect.

الوحش او حد بيورر اي حاجة وحشة بيوريها محدش بيوريها الناس بتشير

The monster shows anything bad, but no one shows it; people just share it.

فود بتشير مومنتس حلوة كل واحد بيوري بيوري وانت عارف وانا عارف ايه بقى

Food highlights sweet moments; everyone shows what they show, and you know, and I know, what that is.

البهايند دي سي ايه بقى اللي خلف الصورة دي البلاوي اللي خلفها

What are the consequences behind this picture and the troubles that come with it?

ايه ما مؤمن مع انت قاعدين نتعرفوا بسوشال ميديا انا لو شخص مع انت باش

What do you mean by "we are getting to know each other on social media"? If I were a person with you, then...

يعرفني مكل ينجم يلوج علي في السوشال ميديا يتعرف علي يعملي رياكت

Anyone who knows me can look me up on social media, get to know me, and react.

يجاوبني اكسيترا المشكل انه مع انت ايه كيفش نعمل نتعرفوا بالعلاقات

He answers me, but the problem is how can we get to know each other through relationships?

هذية مع انت عسوشال ميديا ولا نحطوا

Is this for social media or should we put it?

جيدار ما انت شنوه شنو رايك انا هتكلم من جزء المؤمن سيبنا بقى من جزء النفسي

What do you think about what I'm going to say from the perspective of a believer? Let's leave aside the psychological aspect.

انا دلوقتي خليني مؤمن انا مش داخل في علاقة انا بدخل بصلح مكان اللي قبلي وببدأ على نظيف

I am now convinced that I am not entering a relationship; I am coming to fix the place of the one before me and starting fresh.

هتعرف انت اللي هو لما بتجيب حد بصلح بصلح اللي قبلي سابق بصلح اللي قبلها بصلح بقى المشاكل اللي اهلها معها بصلح بصلح بصلح

You will understand what it is when you bring someone to fix things; they fix what the previous one messed up, then they fix the issues that the family had with her, fixing and fixing and fixing.

وشوف تنجح ولا ما تنجحش عشان تقدر بعد كده تدخل مع علاقة طيب هل الوقت يسمح لا

"See if you succeed or not so that you can later enter into a relationship. Well, does time allow it? No."

احيانا انت بتمل بتمل انك انت بتصلح بتصلح بتصلح والشخص اللي قدامك ده ما عندوش قابلية ليه عشان

Sometimes you get tired, tired of fixing and fixing while the person in front of you has no willingness for it.

ايه ده مش شغف عشان كذا حاجة حصلت فاحنا بقينا في مجتمع نصو مريض نفسي غير قابل العلاج مش غير قابل

What is this? It's not passion; that's why something happened, and we became part of a society that is a half-sick mental patient that is incurable, not just unhealable.

العلاج اللي هو ما يفعلش تعالج لا هو وزد نفسه مش عايز يتعالج هو شايف نفسه اذا كان موجود واكه

The treatment that doesn't do anything; he doesn't want to be treated. He sees himself as if he exists and is okay.

هاو هذيك هذيك طبيعتي هذا هو انا يتقبل زي ما انت يتسيبني طب اعترف ان في مشكلة لا لا لا فميش مشكلة

This is my nature, this is me. Accept me as I am, or leave me. Okay, I admit there's a problem. No, no, no, there’s no problem.

هذيك يا طبيعتي انا هكا طبيعتي ما فيش حاجة اسمها طبيعتك انت يا باشا عندك مرض نفسي لازم تروح تتعالج يا سيني مش عايب احنا ثقافة ثقافة المرض النفسي والمينتال هادث والكلام ده كله بقى مؤخرا بقى موجود مين فينا كان زمان وهو صغير زي ما بقولك كان بيروح للدكتور النفسي ولا بتاع دلوقتي نص البلد الدكتور النفسي صلى على النبي دلوقتي نص البلد ماشية بالادوية انا اتحديك تنزل لدقة الشارع بمع بصي في تونس احسن من مصر متقدمة في الموض

That’s my nature, I can’t help it. There’s no such thing as your nature, my friend; you have a mental illness that you need to get treated for. It’s not shameful; our culture is evolving in terms of mental health and all this talk has recently become common. Who among us, when we were young, would go to a psychiatrist like I’m telling you? Nowadays, half the country is on medication. I challenge you to walk down the street and look, Tunisia is better than Egypt; it’s more advanced in this field.

تونس دلوقتي انا اتحديك تنزل الشارع توقف عشرة افتح شنطتك بنات تمام بنات بالذات اكتر من الولادة افتح شنطتك هتلاقي في دوام الادوية اللي موجود معها لعلاقة بجزء نفسي واخدها من دكتور نفسي اتحديك نحط تختار المبلغ اللي انت عايزين وقف عشرة هتلاقي مالة يقل عند ستة سبعة عندهم الموضوع ده برشة روى نحكيه ستين بالمية يا محمد بزنط طيب ايه السبب التشكيل

Tunisia, right now I challenge you to go down to the street, stop for ten minutes, open your bag. Girls, specifically more than boys, open your bag and you'll find a variety of medications that are related to mental health, and they take them from a psychiatrist. I challenge you to choose the amount you want, stop for ten minutes and you'll find there is no less than six or seven who have this issue. This is a topic we can talk about, sixty percent, Mohamed. So what is the reason for the formation?

الاجتماعي التغير الكورونا لها نسبة كبيرة كورونا لها نسبة كبيرة انا عن نفسي الكورونا زي ما فدتني زي ما ما ما ضرتني انا في سنة من عمري ضاعت اي نعم الحمد لله استغلالتها ان انا بدأت اعمل محتوى بس كأنا نفسي انا عارف ان انا طالعة مش نسبة مية في المية انا عارف ان في جزء من شغلي انا احيانا باخد اجازة من الشهر ولو حد بيكلمني يلا نطلع لا انا عندي شهر وانا والله العظيم عندي حاجة واضف في البيت كده مع نفسي عشان انا عارف لو طلعت

The social change brought about by Corona is significant. Personally, Corona has affected me in both good and bad ways. One year of my life was lost, but thank God I utilized that time to start creating content. However, I know that I'm not giving 100%. I recognize that there are parts of my work that I sometimes take a break from for a month. If someone calls me to go out, I have to decline. I have a month where I have things to do at home by myself because I know if I go out...

عشان اقلق لعبات. بالزبط. هتبدأ بقى بمية بقى بنسبة على مين? عن الناس اللي احنا بنبقى عارفين ان هم يستحملوا اللي هو. اهي لناس اللي نحبهم. شطورة. ناس اللي نحبهم معروفة. شكلك عملتها قبل كده. الناس اللي نحبهم وما اللي ما فيش فيهم غير ليه معروفة. طب انا غير ليه. طب انا دلوقتي متنافسة اروحة للمدير ازا عاقله هيعمل ليه. والله. كذا كذا برة. اي اما الشخص اما الشخص اللي نحبه اللي مفروض انا قدمت في الكاس

To worry about games. Exactly. You'll start now with water depending on who? About the people we know can handle it. These are the people we love. Clever. The people we love are well known. You look like you've done this before. The people we love and who have nothing else but are known. Well, I'm different. So now I'm a competitor going to the manager how rationally he will treat me. By God. So on and so forth outside. Either it's the person or the person we love that I was supposed to have applied for the cup.

وعطف وحاجات بالنسبة لي مدام انا قدمت في يوم ما ولا في ساعة ما وقت اللي انا منيش في ساعة سعيدة ننتظر منه نفس الشيء انه هو يهز علي انه هو زاد يعمل لي حاجات اه يتحملني ويتحمل طاقتي ولا مودي الزفت وكسيترا وكل ما انت مرة عندي مرة عندي مش هيكك العلاقة الصحية ولا انا غالطة صلحني دكتور هو ده الصحي بس مش لأ اللي بيحصل هو ده

And compassion and needs for me, since I presented at some point or at some hour, when I am not in a happy hour, I expect the same thing from him, that he supports me and bears my energy, my bad mood, and so on. Every time I have him, it’s not how a healthy relationship should be, or am I wrong? Correct me, Doctor; this is what is healthy, but what is happening is not.

صح. بس مش ده اللي بيحصل. انا ما عنديش طاقة استحمالك انا جايم الشغلة تعبان وفي المكفيني فبعد ازنك الله يخليكي بطري شغل الهرمونات بتاعك ده ولما تتعالجي بيتعالي. عشان نبقى صريح ده اللي بيحصل وده مش بيحصل. ده اللي بيحصل وده. صحيح. وهل الحاجات دي بتحصل من الولد بس ولا من الولد وبنت? من الولد وبنت? اثنين بتبيعها. بالضبط. بتبيعها لازم تقول ما الاثنين ما تلصقوا ايش في الهرمونات ده. مش هلزبق

Correct. But that's not what's happening. I don't have the energy to tolerate you; I'm drained and exhausted. So please, for God's sake, keep your hormone issues to yourself, and when you get treated, it will be fine. To be honest, that's what's happening, and it's not happening. That's what's happening and it is true. Do these things happen just from the boy or from both the boy and the girl? From both the boy and the girl? Both are involved. Exactly. Both need to be addressed; you can't just stick everything on these hormones. It's not just about that.

ما فيها. ابسط ما فيها. الرجل لما بيبقى مضغوط نفسي بيقول لك انا هتعبان من الشغل. هو مش تعبان من الشغل. ميجيش يقول كلمة هرموناتي ولا ولا ولا تقتينية مش موجودة ولا اه عصابي تالفة. حلوتنا وحلوة الهرمونات. الى متى? احنا نلصقوا بالهرمونات. الهرمونات هتجيلك خمس تيام ست سبع تيام في الشهر وما بعد الهرمونات ايه اللي هيحصل? لا هنا في مشكلة نفسية لازم نتكلم فيها. هنا في مصيبة قاعدة بتحصل واحنا ما حد

There is nothing in it. The simplest thing about it is that when a man is psychologically pressured, he tells you he's tired from work. He's not tired from work. He doesn't say the word "hormonal" or "technical," none of that exists, or he's not "emotionally disturbed." Our sweetness and the sweetness of hormones. Until when? Why do we stick to hormones? Hormones will come to you for five, six, or seven days a month, and what will happen after hormones? No, there is a psychological problem that we need to talk about. There is a disaster happening, and no one is addressing it.

عشان عيب انك تتكلم. عيب انت كراجل تفتح بقك وتقول انا مضغوط نفسي او تعبان من نفسي. يا ابني انت مش لسه واكل لحمة وفراخ مبارك. مال اللحمة

"It's shameful for you to speak. It's shameful for you as a man to open your mouth and say I'm mentally stressed or tired of myself. O son, haven’t you just eaten meat and chicken from the feast? What's with the meat?"

والفراخ. الثقافة بتاعت الجزء النفسي لو انتشرت في تونس فهي انتشرت اكتر عند البنات اكتر من عند الاولاد. طب بالنسبة لمصر موجودة بس بناء على دخل الحيلة. اذا كان. اهي.

And the chickens. The culture of the psychological aspect, if it has spread in Tunisia, has spread more among girls than boys. As for Egypt, it exists but depends on the income of the household. If so. Here it is.

متيسرين ماديين. ترسين كويس هيقول لك الولد لازم يخلي بنا عن سلوكه. ما ينفعش اشتم قدام ابني ما ينفعش ازعق قدام ابني. هندينا خنائط مش قدام العيال. اه. انما لو في

Financially comfortable. It’s good that you’re steering him in the right direction, he needs to be mindful of his behavior. I can’t be cursing in front of my son, I can’t be yelling in front of my son. We have disagreements but not in front of the kids. Yes. However, if there’s...

نقاس متوسطين ماديين يعني ايه نفسيتك? برحمة. اه سوري. اه. بس ما فيش حاجة اسمها نفسية. نفسية ايه? يعني ايه نفسية? انت يا ابني

Measuring two material averages, what does your psychology mean? For mercy's sake. Oh, sorry. Yes. But there's no such thing as psychology. What psychology? What do you mean by psychology? You, my son.

احمد. بص عادة بتحصل الكلام ده. تقولها النفسية دي تعبانة. يا ابني احمد ربنا عن نعمة اللي انت فيها. يعطيك

Ahmed. This usually happens. You could say her mental state is tired. My son, thank God for the blessing you're in. May He grant you.

صح. كأنه حمد ربي معناتها متصل بانه لا مدامك تحمد في ربي رك مكش مكش تعبين نفساني. انا ممكن ما احمد ربنا على سبعين

Yes. It's like praising my Lord, meaning it's connected to the fact that as long as you praise your Lord, you are not feeling mentally exhausted. I might not praise our Lord for seventy reasons.

الف نعمة. ولكني من داخل تعبانة نفساني. بس الحمد لله اوكي. اما الحمد لله موجودة موجودة في حياتي. لكن هذا ما يمنعش انه

A thousand blessings. But I am internally feeling mentally exhausted. But thank God, I'm okay. As for thank God, it's present in my life. But that doesn't mean that...

انا محتاجة نشوف اخصائي. ما محتاجة نشوف حاجة حاجة نلزمني نصلحها. وكأنه وليه وفهمها ضرب في الايمان زادة. ذاك

I need to see a specialist. I don't need to see anything that I need to fix. It's as if he understood that it's a blow to faith as well. That's it.

خيبة على الاخر مؤمن. اكا متاع على خاطرك ما تحمدش رب. ايه ذاك علش تحس بالقلق ولا ذاك على خاطرك ما تصليش ولا على

Disappointment to the fullest, believer. That's why you don't thank God for your possessions. Yes, that's why you feel anxious, or is it because you don't pray?

خاطرك ما تمشيش. وعلى خاطرك تسمع كذا. وعلى خاطر ليه ما عندها حتى علاقة النجم يكون علاقتي بربي. بالضبط. بيا. ولكني انا من داخل عشت اه

I wish you wouldn't leave. And for your sake, hear this. And for her sake, it has nothing to do with how the star has a relationship with my Lord. Exactly. By me. But I have lived from within, oh.

معين عشت علاقة وفيت عشت كذا كذا. اني مهزوزة نفسانيا. والحزن نحس فيه معناته. طيب تكملة عن اللي انتي قلتي. اه. هحكي على موقف حصل.

I lived a loyal relationship, lived this and that. I am emotionally shaken. And we feel sadness, meaning. Okay, continuing about what you said. Yes. I will talk about a situation that happened.

اوكي. تمام? مع واحدة زملتي هي مصرية المانية. اوكي. يعني عاشت برا وعاشت في مصر. تعرف الاختلافات الزوز. دي دي يا جماعة نصيحة

Okay. Is that fine? I have a colleague who is Egyptian-German. Okay. So she has lived abroad and lived in Egypt. She knows both differences. This is, guys, a piece of advice.

تركزوا بس بعد ازنكم في اي حد بيسمعها عشان دي مهمة جدا. تمام? دي انت زات نفسك اللي اللي عندك مشكلة او حاس انك عندك مشكلة نفسية لازم تركز ببعضك بانه هو انت الشخص اللي بتروحه. لانه بتحكيه دي. بتقول لي رحت يا مؤمن الواحد. كنا بنعمل في سؤال. بنتكلم يعني كجزء برضو ان احنا بندردش في المجال ده وكان عم نقوله. بتقول لي رحت الواحد عاد تتكلم بالزبط ما عليه قل عن تلت ساعة نص ساعة. وقفها في نص الكلام. قال لا انا عسالك سؤال

Please focus, if you don't mind, on anyone who is listening because this is very important. Okay? You yourself, if you have a problem or feel that you have a psychological issue, you need to concentrate on the fact that you are the person you need to work on. Because you're talking about it. You said, "I went to someone." We were asking a question. We were talking as part of our discussion in this field, and we were saying. You told me that you went to someone who spoke for about half an hour to three-quarters of an hour. He stopped halfway through and said, "No, I'm going to ask you a question."

اللي الوهلة تمام حسيت ان انا بشتكي الشيخ مش بشتكي الدكتور نفسيا. جزء الدين ده امر مفروغ منه. دي ما بينك وما بين ربنا. طبعا. دي علاقتك انت بيه. تمام? احيانا دكاتر النفسين بتقول لك الصلاة اه اه على حسب التنشئة الاجتماعية. هل انت تواردت في بيت متدين ولا مش متدين? البيت المتدين فانا عارف نفسي دايما بيحس بتقنيب الضمير لما بيصليشوا الكلام ده كله. دي جزء مفروغ منها. بس في فرق ما بين الدين وفي فرق ما بين الصحة

In the beginning, I felt like I was complaining about the sheikh, not about the psychologist. This matter of religion is something settled. It’s between you and God, of course. That’s your relationship with Him, right? Sometimes psychologists tell you that prayer is, well, it depends on social upbringing. Did you grow up in a religious household or not? In a religious household, I always know that they feel guilty when they don't pray, all of that. This is a settled matter. But there is a difference between religion and there is a difference between health.

مثلا تقول لك في بنت انا مش هبقى مرتاحة نفسيا لو انا مشيت من خلال حجاب في الشارع عشان انا من وانا عندي تسع سنين ولا بلبس حجاب. فانت بتقول لي انا من عندي تسع سنين لحد لما خمسة وعشرين سنة ولا حتى تلاتين سنة بلبس حجاب وتجي لي مرة واحدة تقول لي اقلعي الحجاب انا هحس بيه. مش هبقى مرتاحة نفسيا. هل هي صح ولا غلط? هي صح. مم. فيش حد قال لها ان هي غلط. لان هي نفسيا انتبهت كده. مم. وجزء الدين مش دايما يا جماعة ان احنا لاز

For example, she tells you, "I won't feel mentally comfortable if I walk in the street without a hijab because I've been wearing a hijab since I was nine years old." So you tell me, "I've been wearing a hijab from the age of nine until I'm twenty-five or even thirty, and then one day you come and tell me to take it off, I will feel it. I won’t feel mentally comfortable." Is she right or wrong? She is right. Mm. No one told her that she was wrong. Because she noticed this mentally. Mm. And part of religion, guys, is not always that we have to...

بالصناعة ما بينك وبين ربنا ما ينفعش تربطه ببناس او باشخاص وتبدأ تحاسب ان انت بتصلي ومن بتصليش او عشان كده انت نفسيتك وحشة او عشان كده ربنا مقفلة في عشان كده انت مش بتلاقي شغل عشان كده رزقك مكتوب لك. حياتك من اول ما انت جيت للدنيا بدايتك وانهايتك مكتوبة. مكتوبة ومعروفة وربنا عارف هو كتب لك اي وقت يا ربنا هيرزقك وربنا بيدخل وربنا بيغير وربنا بيسوي وربنا وربنا وربنا بس. مش قدم مع

In your relationship with God, you can't link it to people or individuals and start to judge yourself based on whether you pray or not, or that’s why you’re feeling down or that’s why God is withholding from you, or that’s why you can’t find a job, or that’s why your sustenance is written for you. Your life, from the moment you came into this world, your beginning and your end are written. They are written and known, and God knows what He has written for you. Whenever God wants, He will provide for you, and God intervenes, and God changes things, and God adjusts things, and God, and God, and God alone. It is not about what you offer.

مهمة جدا وممكن فين برش عباد مش فاهمينها. كلمة الترومة. اول

Very important and maybe some people don't understand it. The word "teruma." First.

حاجة هكا باختصار قل لنا معناتها اليوم كيفاش نعرف اللي انا عندي

Something like this, in short, tell us what it means today and how I can know if I have it.

ترومة بعد علاقة معناتها بعد علاقة عاطفية. هل فم الساعة ترومة

"Truma after a relationship means after a romantic relationship. Is there a time for Truma?"

بعد علاقة عاطفية? هذا سؤالي. وضعي اكيد في ترومة. بمعنى. بمعنى.

After a romantic relationship? This is my question. My situation is definitely in trauma. Meaning. Meaning.

بمعنى. اقوى حاجة في الترومة انا لسه سايباه. وهروح ارتبط بواحد

Meaning. The strongest thing in the trauma, I'm still leaving it. And I'm going to get involved with someone.

تاني. عشان اغيزه. دي ترومة بسم الله ما شاء الله. دي هنا في

Wait. To annoy him. This is a fright, in the name of Allah, ma sha' Allah. This is here in

في مشكلة. انت لسه بتعاني من توابع العلاقة دي. دي انا بدي

There is a problem. You are still suffering from the aftermath of this relationship. This is what I give.

مثال حي. انا انا بوصف الترومة بافعال بتاعي. بافعال. اوكي.

A live example. I describe the trauma through my actions. Actions. Okay.

الترومة انك انت حاضر تخلصت علاقة مش هدي فرصة لنفسي ان انا

The opportunity is that you are present; I ended the relationship so that I wouldn't give myself a chance to...

ابتح نفسيا واشوف انا ممكن اعمل ايه وايه الاغلاط اللي حصلت عشان

I will take a deep breath and see what I can do and what mistakes happened so that...

ما تتكرر شي تاني واختياري كان صح ولا غلط. لا. انا في اللحزة دي

What you repeat is not something else, and my choice was right or wrong. No. I'm in this moment.

هرتبط بيو. كلب في الشارع هترتبط بيه. عشان اغيزه. اوكي.

I'll get a dog in the street to annoy him. Okay.

فاللي بيحصل? انت بتدخل العلاقة بتحولي انك تقارني ما بينك وما

So what's happening? You enter the relationship trying to compare yourself with others.

بين الاكس ده. وتحولي انك تتواجدي او تشوه سواء على السوشال ميديا

Between this X and transforming yourself to be present or distorted on social media.

او سواء في الاماكن. هذي اللي الرجل والمرأة نحكيها. كيف كيف?

Or whether in places. These are the ones that a man and a woman talk about. Is it the same?

طبعا الاتنين. طبعا الاتنين. احنا عناك الفاظة متاع ما ينسي

Of course the two. Of course the two. We have here a phrase that won't be forgotten.

مرأة كان مرأة اخرى وما ينسي راجل كان راجل اخر. بتتقال على

A woman was like another woman, and a man was like another man. It's said about...

فكرة. اهي. وبتتقال جدا ما ينسي. اه هو ماشي. اهي هو ماشي

An idea. Here it is. It is often said; it cannot be forgotten. Yes, he is walking. Here he is walking.

مريج. انا معك. هو فقط التوقيت يعني. بالزبط. هي بتنسي. بس هل

Marij. I am with you. It's just the timing, you know. Exactly. She forgets. But is it...

انا مؤهل اني ادخل مع وحدة تانية دلوقتي? وانا متدمر نفسيا او

Am I qualified to enter with another one right now? And I am psychologically destroyed.

هنتي متدمرها نفسيا? اكيد لأ. اكيد لازم تدي وقت لنفسك يا جماعة

Are you psychologically destroying her? Definitely not. You definitely need to give yourself time, guys.

ادوا وقت لنفسك ويا جماعة اقعد مع نفسك. وقتك مع نفسك حتى لو

Take time for yourself, and everyone, sit with yourself. Your time with yourself, even if...

انت سليم نفسيا وحاسس ان انت عندك اكتفاء ذاتي من العلاقات

You are mentally stable and feel that you have self-sufficiency in relationships.

وفنوس وشغل والدنيا اقعد مع نفسك كده كل يوم يومين مص ساعة

And the lantern and work, and the world, sit with yourself like this every day or two for half an hour.

ساعة ما تعملش حاجة سيب التليفون اقعد بص للسماء ولا بص

When you don't do anything, leave the phone and just look at the sky or look around.

لسقف البيت اقعد كده فكر مع نفسك اعمل ريكاب لكل حاجة كانت

For the ceiling of the house, sit like this and think to yourself, do a recap of everything that was.

بتحصل لك ادي وقت لنفسك الناس ما بقتش عايزة اي حاجة الناس بقت

You get time for yourself; people no longer want anything, people have changed.

بتغيص بعض الناس حتى لما بتطلع من العلاقات بقت بتعايزة تحرق

Some people, even when they get out of relationships, still want to burn.

دم بعض الناس بقت عايزة احرقها وماني ماني كنقعد مع روحي مؤمن

The blood of some people, I just want to burn it, and I'm not myself when I sit alone with my soul.

اه تعرف شنو يصير وهذي روح منعرفش عند الولاية تقول لي انت

Oh, you know what happens, and this spirit we don't know about, the state tells you.

موجودة لانه الاكثر العباد اللي تحكي لي بنات في هو هي

It exists because most of the people who talk to me are girls, and it is she.

البنات كي تقعد تقعد مع روحها خاصة بعد انتهاء علاقة احنا ديما

Girls, when they sit, they sit by themselves, especially after a relationship ends; we are always.

نحكي وبعد انتهاء علاقة وبعد بالحقك العلاقة اللي وفيت واحد

We talk about the end of a relationship, and after that, to be honest, the relationship that you were committed to.

وكل وجعتك وكل جلد الذات برشة بنات في جلد الذات وين عملت وين

"All your pain and all the self-flagellation, a bunch of girls in self-flagellation, where did you act?"

ما حقنيش وين اه صار لي وو

"Where have you been? What happened to me?"

وتتضرب فما هكا فما ضرب للضوابط متعثيقها متاحة معاش شوف روحها

And it gets beaten, so there's no punishment for the controls; her limitations are no longer available. Look at herself now.

مزيانة معاش اه تحس في روحها مرتاحة معاش اه اه حابة تعمل

She's feeling good now, she feels comfortable now, she wants to do something.

حاجات اه تسكر على روحها وقلت وقلت تعافر باش انها تعيش وكل

She shut herself in and kept saying she was struggling to live and everything.

لكن هي من داخل متدمرة متقلقة فهل هذا سعى هل هذا يسير عند

But she is internally devastated and anxious. Is this a struggle? Is this easy?

الولاية كجلد الذات بعد علاقة عاطفية وهل الوقت مع روحي وانا

The state is like self-skinning after an emotional relationship, and is the time with my soul and me?

نحكي مع روحي في حاجات خايبين خايبين خايبين على الاخر انو

I talk to myself about things that are really, really, really bad.

طفلة تقول على روحها مثلا تقول قديشني ما نعرفش نخمم قديش قلبي

A little girl says about herself, for example, she says how much I don't know how to think about how much my heart.

يسر ما يعرفش يفكر قديش حتي تروحي في موضع يسر خايب شبيني

It's easy not to think about how much it hurts until you go to a place that really aches.

اصلا حبيت بالطريقة ذيكة فتبدأ بجلد الذات جلد الذات واه هو

I actually liked it that way, so it begins with self-criticism, oh how it is.

اغزر البلاص تولي العكس معنى تولي تقول لك ايه هو هو الضحية

The more the place gets crowded, the more it becomes the opposite meaning. When you say "turn," it tells you what is the victim.

وين وين وين السبب

Where, where, where is the reason?

حاولوا نجري وهم هكا تكملت انا الكلام بتبدأ بقص الشعر معروفة

They tried to run, and this is how I completed; the speech starts with the well-known hair cutting.

بتبدأ معروفة انما احنا بنروح بنروح عادة رجالة كده وربنا لتلقى

It starts off known, but we usually go, we go like men, and God will meet us.

ستة ستة هواة يا باشا انت كنت مخنوق يا باشا اطلع يا باشا صهراتك

Six six enthusiasts, oh Pasha. You were suffocated, oh Pasha. Come out, oh Pasha, your gatherings.

حفلاتك دنياتك مع انت هكا القوة في الذات بصراحة الناس بتجلد نفسها

Your parties are your world, and you have such strength within yourself. Honestly, people are punishing themselves.

عشان بتقعد يعني بصراحة اقول لك انا حاجة تخيلي انت يتعود

Because you sit, to be honest, I tell you it's something you get used to.

مسلا سنتين تلاتة تتكلمي مع حد كل يوم انت متعودة انك هتعملي حاجة

For example, for two or three years, you talk to someone every day, you get used to doing something.

فبترجعها اللي تاخدوا فيها رأي الشخص ده ما بقاش موجود. اه. فانت

So you return it to the one whose opinion you took; that person is no longer present. Yes. So you...

نفسك اللي كانت متعودة عن حاجة انت عملت فينا كده دي ما احنا كنا

Yourself that was used to something, you did this to us, we were...

زي الفل تحنا دحنا دحنا. هقول لكم على كلمة برضو حلو انا دايما

Like the best, we are thriving. I'll tell you a nice word, I always...

محطها وطيما بحبها. تمام? اه. ما تستخدمش. اه اه ما تستخدمش

"Her destination, and I'm in love with her. Okay? Yes. Don't use it. Yes, yes, don't use it."

العشرة. كأن هي انك تكمل مع حد تقصي. هذا يا متفاهمي. تمام?

The ten. It's as if you're completing something with someone you trust. This is about understanding each other. Okay?

انك انت بعد كل علاقتها كده وتشوف خلينا نديها والله العلاقة دي

After all her relationships like this, you see, let us give her, by God, this relationship.

كانت اي ما على عشان برضو نبقى صارحين ما فيش حد كامل مية في

No one is perfect, let's be honest.

المية. طبعا. يعني لو علاقة بازت ما تقولش انا كنت كويسة ومية مية

The water. Of course. It means if a relationship went bad, don't say I was good and everything was perfect.

وهو كان زي الزفت معي وبيعمل لي وبيعمل لي. فيه ديك وفيه تختلف

He was really awful with me, doing this and that. There's a rooster, and it varies.

بقى هو اكتر انت يا قل لك كلام ده كله. من وجهة ناصري بعد اي

He remains the most; you, I say all this. From my Nasserite perspective, after what?

علاقة انت محتاجة تدي وقت لنفسك. تدي وقت لنفسك. تدي او تدي انت.

A relationship you need to give time to yourself. Give time to yourself. Give or give to yourself.

اهي.

Is it?

وقت لنفسك. ايوة. تدي وقت لنفسك تعمل الحاجات اللي انت بتخليك

Time for yourself. Yes. Give yourself time to do the things that make you.

محسوب. الحاجات اللي بتخليك محسوبة هتطلعك بره المدى الوحش

Calculated. The things that make you calculated will take you out of the brutal range.

اللي انت فيه. طلعت بره المدى الوحش اللي انت فيه هتتجنب

What you are in. You stepped outside the wild range you are in, you will avoid.

المساواة او الحاجات السيئة اللي كنت هتعملها وانت موضك وحش.

Equality or the bad things you would do when you're in a bad mood.

اه. الناس لما بيطلع فى اي بعد ما بتصيب اي علاقة لو بتأذي فهي

Ah. People, when they go through any relationship, if it hurts, it's...

بتأذي نفسها بتصرفات بتدخين بشرب بافعال احنا ما كناش

She is hurting herself with behaviors like smoking, drinking, and actions we were not aware of.

متعودين عليها. لو انا مسلا بتاعي كان بيقول لي ما تلبسيش وما

We are used to it. If, for example, mine had told me not to wear it and...

تعمليش. انا هالبس وهعمل وهنزل وبتاع. بس في حاجة انت مش فاهميها.

You don't work. I'm going to dress up, do things, and go out. But there's something you don't understand.

ده او الولد لما بيسيب والله العظيم بيسيب. مم. ماشي عايز. ده

This boy, when he leaves, by God, he really leaves. Hmm. Okay, he wants. This.

يعرف ديه. فهم بتصوروا وبينزلوا مع بعض. مش عايز تقول لك. تجرأ

He knows it. They imagine it and go down together. I don't want to tell you. Be brave.

الله. ما عايزة ونوع نفسي. والله العظيم. انا بتكلم كان جزء كبير

God. What I want and what I mean. I swear to God. I was talking about a big part.

برضو منك. بقى ايه? مش فارغ. انت يوم لما بتسيب بيسيب. اوكي. في

"Also from you. So what? It's not empty. The day you leave, he leaves. Okay. In."

ناس مهزقة ما نلاش دعوة بيها بتعمل حاجة تانية. مهم ليش. انا

People are exhausted; I have no invitation to them to do something else. It is important, why? I.

بتكلم كواحد مسلا لو الواحد ده سوي. تمام? اوكي. اللي بيسيب

I'm talking like someone is normal, okay? Alright. Those who leave...

بيسيب. فانت لو بتعملي طاقة او بتعملي عشان تغزيه فصدقيني كراجل

It's enough. If you're doing energy or doing it to nourish him, then believe me, as a man.

والله يا بنت ما بيفرق. هذيك علشان دي ما نقول لهم لبنات الطاقة

By God, girl, it doesn't make a difference. That's because we don't tell them the energy girls.

اللي بيش تحطها في اه تغزيل وحطها فيك انتي. شطورة. حطها فيك

What you want to put in your beautification, put it in you. Clever. Put it in you.

انتي. حطها فيك انتي. حطها فيك انتي. لانه واضح. واتس اوكي راهو

You. Put it in you. Put it in you. Because it's obvious. What's okay, it's fine.

ما انت كتحطهم فيك انتي. امم. ومثلش مثلا عديت يوم كويس

What do you mean by putting them in you? Hmm. And like, for example, I had a good day.

واشتغلت وسبورت ووالله ونحكي على تجربتي راهو مؤمن معنات. اه

"I worked and exercised, and by God, when I talk about my experience, it really means something. Ah."

ما انت اتس اوكي. اه عملت عملت عملت مجهود وقمت واشتغلت وقبلت

What are you? It's okay. Yes, I made effort, I got up, worked, and accepted.

ناس وفرحت مع ناس وضحكت من قلبي واحد وكل.

People and I rejoiced with people and laughed from my heart, one and all.

لكن الكسرة ما زالت. ولما روحت للبيت واحد وكل حسيت بشوية حزن

But the sadness still lingers. And when I went home alone, I felt a bit of sorrow.

خمستاشر دقيقة عشرين دقيقة. عيطت. عيطت بالمصري. وليت نحكي

Fifteen minutes, twenty minutes. I cried. I cried in Egyptian. And then I started talking.

بالمصري. عيطت ونكسرت واحد وكل. اما من غدوة الحي اسباح. العجلة

In Egyptian. I cried and broke down with one and all. But from tomorrow, the neighborhood will be awake. The wheel.

الدور وتعاود ونكون. فاتس اوكي. تابعت روما. شنوة صاير. على رأيي

The role and we return and be. So it's okay. I followed Roma. What's happening? In my opinion.

استاز عمرو ديب بيقول لك في واحد. لا عادل عد المثل عمرو ديب.

Professor Amr Diab is telling you that there is one. No, Adil is not like Amr Diab.

في واحدة بننساها بواحدة وفي واحدة ما بتتنسيش. ايوة. طب هل احنا

In one, we forget it with another, and in one, it cannot be forgotten. Yes. So, are we...

ينفع نرجع لها? لا. لا. ليه? عشان في حاجات اتكسرت مش هينفع

Can we go back to it? No. No. Why? Because some things broke, it won't work.

تتصلى. اما اذاك البروسيس عادي انك تدوي روحك. انه انا نقوم

You are calling. But if this process is normal, you should take care of yourself. I will take care of it.

ونشتغل. منيش نجذب على روحي. منيش. البنت بعد ما بتسيب على

"And we work. I'm not deceiving myself. I'm not. The girl after she leaves about."

اخوها بتروح فين? تغير لبس. راجل بيروح فين? بيجهد نفسه بدنيا

Where is her brother going? Changing clothes. Where is the man going? He's exhausting himself physically.

عشان يرجع يتخمد وينام. واخد بالك من كلمة يتخمد وينام مش يتنام

So that he can calm down and sleep. Notice the word "calm down and sleep" not "go to sleep."

مش هيفكر. بيجهد نفسه بدنيا. مع شغلك. مع دنيتك. مع في بالك حتى

He won't think. He is exhausting himself physically. With your work. With your life. Even with what’s on your mind.

لبنات والدت عاملة كاكة. ونحكي لك والله العظيم. ثقافة جديدة بقت

The girls of the mother are making a cake. And I swear to you, it's a whole new culture now.

تدخل ان هو بيعمل ايه ده ده بيساعده في الهيلينج انا هعمل

What is he doing? This is helping him in the healing process. I will do it.

زيه هيلينج. لا انا والدت كطفلة مع انت هنشوفها في في برشة بنات.

I don't understand. I was raised as a child and we will see her among many girls.

انا نجهد روحي في الخدمة. وعمل وجيم ودنيا.

I exhaust my soul in service, work, the gym, and the world.

وواحدة وكل مش ما نخمنش. طب انت ضامن مية في المائة انا كده

And one, and we don't guess anything. So are you one hundred percent sure that I am like this?

مش هتبقى تفكر? لا. لا. يبقى نرجع لفين? نرجع نقلد نعمل الحاجة

Aren't you going to think? No. No. So where do we go back to? We go back to imitating, doing the thing.

اللي احنا عايزينها. الحاجات اللي نحبهم. بالزبط. اللي هي زي

What we want. The things we love. Exactly. Like those.

ايه? اكلة حلوة. سفرية حلوة. لبس جديد عايز اجيبه. اعملي كده.

What? A delicious meal. A nice trip. I want to get new clothes. Do it for me.

جربي. انا مع فكرة ان احنا كمشكلة كبني ادمين ولاد ولا بنات احنا

Try it. I agree with the idea that as human beings, whether we are boys or girls, we are all the same.

مشكلتنا في الحياة دي حاجتين. الحياة دي بالنسبة لي تلخص

"Our problem in this life is two things. This life, for me, can be summarized..."

الحاجتين. تعرف انت عايز ايه? وتبدأ في الحاجة اللي انت عايزها.

The two things. Do you know what you want? And start with what you want.

آم. هرجع اقولها تاني. تمام? تعرف انك انت عايز ايه في الحياة

Yes. I'll say it again. Alright? Do you know what you want in life?

وتبدأ في الحاجة اللي انت عايزها. الناس بتعيش وبتموت والله

"And it starts with the thing that you want. People live and die, by God."

العظيم عارفهم عايزين ايه? الناس بتدرس طول عمرها وبتشتغل في

The great knows what they want. People study all their lives and work in...

كارير. وبتيجي على سن التلاتينات والاربيعينات وتغير

Career. It comes in your thirties and forties and changes.

الكارير ده. او يبدأ مش اقلوش اي علاقة بالحاجة اللي ادرسها

This career. Or it should not be less related to what I study.

اشتغل. اه. على ما اكتشف شغف ومتأخر. اه. فانت لو العلاقة.

Work. Ah. As I discovered my passion late. Ah. So if you have the relationship.

يعني حتى في العلاقات. حتى في العلاقات. ركز في شنوة تحب.

It means even in relationships. Even in relationships. Focus on what you want.

بالزبط. انا عايزة هقول لك بساطة ما فيها. انا دايما بقولها بل

Exactly. I want to tell you simply how it is. I always say it but...

اخص حتى الاولاد او البنات. تمام? انت لما بتكبر بترزن اكتر.

I specialize even in boys or girls. Is that clear? When you grow up, you weigh more.

اه. تفكيرك بيختلف اكتر. وانت في الليسي كنت مسلا كولد عايز

Ah. Your thinking is different. And when you were in high school, you were like a kid who wanted...

بنت شكلها حلو. انت كبنت عايزة واحد عنده عايزة الود اللي هو

A girl who looks beautiful. As a girl, you want someone who has the qualities he possesses.

اللي هو الود الجامد في اللي هو دي ما يضحك ودي ما يفدلك ودي ما

The strong bond in this is not for laughter, and it does not benefit you, and it does not...

ما يعطيش اهمية للمعلمين والكلام ده كله والليسي كله يخاف منه.

He doesn't give importance to the teachers and all this talk, and everyone is afraid of him.

تكبر شوية لا انا عايز واحدة برضو درسة عند الوقت بادرس عايزة

You grow a little, I want one too. I want to study, I want to study at this time.

برضو تماما انكملت دراستها. درست انا عايز برضو واحدة بتشتغل

She also completely finished her studies. I studied too, and I want someone who works as well.

عشان برضو في يوم تاني انا عايز برضو امرأتي انا بشتغل وهي

Because on another day I also want my wife, I work and she does too.

بتشتغل ونبني اسرة سعيدة لطيفة ظريفة خفيفة. شوية كمان لا انا

You work, and we build a happy, nice, and light family. A little more, no, I'm not.

عايزها دي سنها كبير. اكيد يعرفت كده حد ابي اكيد حصل حقائق

I want her, she's older. You must have realized that someone dear to me has certainly faced some truths.

قبل كده. فانت ترضى ام عيالك تبقى عندها كده كده كده كده. او

Before that. Would you be satisfied if your children were like that, like that, like that, like that? Or

التفكير هي دي ما هوش مربوط من مصر. ايه ايه في كل بلايس. وكل حتى

Thinking is not just limited to Egypt. It's everywhere. In every place. And in everything.

الثقافات. ايه صحيح. حتى حتى تلقى على عاملية من عاش قديش

Cultures. That's true. You will even find it applicable to those who have lived for quite a long time.

امرأة. وقالت لها عم بقى لها خمسة وعشرين سنة. اوكي. لما هي

A woman. And she told her that she has been there for twenty-five years. Okay. When she...

خمسة وعشرين سنة ويقول لها. طب في حاجة عشان نلخص بقى الكلام ده

"Twenty-five years and he's telling her. So, is there anything to summarize this conversation?"

كله? ها? نلخص بقى نلخصه بقى ونخلص. تمام? ما تدخلش حلقة

All of it? Huh? Let's summarize it then and wrap it up. Okay? Don't get into the loop.

انت عارف انك مش هتكمل فيها. ما تنفستش انرجي ووقت وفلوس وجهد

You know you're not going to finish it. You haven't invested energy, time, money, or effort.

واعصاب في حاجة انا عارف انا مش هكمل معاك. سواء بقى يعني حضرتك

"And I need to calm down. I know I'm not going to continue with you. Whether you are..."

اللعب ده بنلعبه احنا صغيرين واحنا في المدرسة اول سنة في

We used to play this game when we were little and in our first year at school.

الجامعة سنة اول سنتين في الجامعة بنطلع ناس بنكتشف مع

In the university, the first two years we meet people and discover together.

ناس طب هذي شنوة بشي قول طب نطلع معك كله خلاص علصت الكلام ده

What is this, what are you going to say? I’ll go with you, that’s enough, I’ve heard this talk.

انفست مع حد انفست في نفسك. للبنات وللولاد ده حكيوا. طبعا

Investing with someone is an investment in yourself. This is what they told the girls and the boys. Of course.

الاتنين. انا هنا علاقتي دي في البرودكستر باتكلم على الاتنين.

On Monday. I am here; my relationship with the producer is about the two of us.

صحيح. تمام? انفست مع حد انت هتكمل معاه. يعني سمحني انا

That's right. Okay? You invested with someone, you're going to continue with them. I mean, forgive me.

اسف في الكلمة. انا اسف. انت كبنت لما تعودي مع ولد في علاقة

I'm sorry in the word. I'm sorry. You as a girl, when you get into a relationship with a boy...

تلات اربع خمس سنين. تمام? وفي الاخر تسيبوا بعض. وعمل حسابك

Three, four, five years. Okay? And in the end, you part ways. And keep that in mind.

انك انت سمحني سبتي وانت في سن التلاتين. وعرفتي واحد. على سبيل

You allowed me to take a break when you were in your thirties. And you knew someone. For example.

المسألة. هنعمل مثال ان بنت دلوقتي عندها كم سنة? مش هقولك

The question is: Let's take an example, how old is the girl now? I won't tell you.

تلاتين. مش هقولك تسعة وعشرين. انا هقولك عندها بنت سبعة وعشرين

Thirty. I won’t tell you twenty-nine. I will tell you she has a twenty-seven-year-old daughter.

سنة. اوكي. تعرفش حد. اهي. لو عرفت حد دلوقتي تمام? اهي. وعرفت

A year. Okay. Do you know someone? Here. If I knew someone right now, okay? Here. And I knew.

تتكلمتو. على ما تتجوزو قدامها هدي وقت. سنة سنتين. مكسيما. ماشي?

You talked about getting married in front of her, this time. A year, two years. Maximum. Okay?

اتجوزت وعيني عندها سنة. اتسعة وعشرين سنة. اوكي. هتجيب عيلوها

I got married, and my eyes are on her. She is twenty-nine years old. Okay. Will she have kids?

اتبعத سنة نجوز. آآ نقوله انا نمن انه بعد سنة من زواز. خاطر

Follow the tradition of marriage. Uh, I mean, I believe that after a year of marriage. Because...

السنة الاولى متاع الجواز الصعيبة. فالكابل على الاقل يعيشو مع بعضهم

The first year of marriage is tough. At least in a relationship, they live together.

وهنا انا من هك. هقول سنة. مسألة. عندها تلاتين سنة وهي حامل على ما

Here I am from here. I will say a year. A matter. She is thirty years old and she is pregnant with what.

تجيبها العيل وهي عندها كم سنة? واحد تلاتين. واحد تلاتين. تمام?

How old is the girl? Thirty-one. Thirty-one. Is that clear?

اول عيل عندك وانت عندك واحد تلاتين سنة على ما هو يبقى عنده

The first child you have, and you are thirty-one years old, will be that age.

وانت عنده خمسين سنة. اه هم. هو عنده تسعة عشر سنة. ده اول

And you are fifty years old. Yes, he is. He is nineteen years old. This is the first.

عيب. تمام? احبيت ولا كرهت احنا مع تمكين المرأة مع حرية المرأة

It's a shame. Okay? Whether you liked it or disliked it, we are in favor of empowering women and supporting women's freedom.

بس في نفس الوقت ما تخليش. العمر دي. بالصبت. ما حد ما

But at the same time, don't let. This age. By exactness. Nobody.

يستاهلش. اه صحيح. ما تخليش العمر دي ما حد ما يستاهلش. احساس

He doesn't deserve it. Oh right. Don't let life tell you that no one deserves it. It's a feeling.

الامومة احساس حلو وعايز يعيشه وعايز يعيشه بدل مع طفل عايز

Motherhood is a sweet feeling, and I want to experience it, and I want to experience it instead of having a child who wants.

يعيشه مع طفل واتنين وتلاتة لو الامور المتاهة تسمح. اه. فما

He lives with one child, two, and three if the situation allows. Yes. So what.

تخليش انك انت تقضي وقتك الجميل ده وعمرك وشبابك وحلوتك

Don't let yourself spend this beautiful time, your life, your youth, and your beauty.

وسنك وطفولتك ودنيتك وطفلك اللي هيجي يوم تاني مع اب توكسيك او

"And your age, your childhood, your world, and your child who will come one day with a toxic father or..."

مع حتى كراجل مع ست توكسيك. ام. كيف كيف مع انت? بالصبت. قضي

"Even as a man with a toxic woman. Um. How about you? Exactly. Done."

مع حد كويس. بس اللي بقى بيحصل ايه? الناس بتتسرع في دويس.

"It's fine with a good limit. But what's happening now? People are rushing into chaos."

محكمة الاسرة بسم الله ومشاء الله وشغال الله وكبار. ما عندك

Family court, in the name of God, and God willing, and God is working, and the elders. What do you have?

لأ عندك فكرة. مش هنقول لك عندك فكرة في تونس ما عندك يعني سبب

You have an idea. We won’t say you have an idea in Tunisia, you don’t have one, meaning there’s a reason.

طلاق. طلاق. وخاصة ان. والادنى والامر خاصة ان في العمر متاعي

Divorce. Divorce. Especially that. And the least and the matter especially that in my age.

ما انت في العمر متاعنا ما. ده فوق التلاثينيات. طيب. راهو حاجة

What are you in our age? This is over the thirties. Okay. It's something.

مهودة راهو. هل دي حاجة وحشة? لا بالعكس عادي. تجربة دخلناها

It's fine, really. Is that a bad thing? No, on the contrary, it's normal. It's an experience we went through.

وما ما. اما على الاقل عرفنا شنو نحب وشنو ما نحبوشها? لا. مال?

And what about? At least we know what we like and what we don't like? No. What then?

والله العظيم بيطلعوا وهم مش عارفين ومعايزين ايه. اه. واقسم

I swear by God, they appear without knowing what they want. Yes. And I swear.

بالله ما بيبقى يعني مثلا يعني انت دلوقتي لما تطلع ترتاحي اه

By God, it doesn't stay, for example, when you go out to rest, right?

تطلع مرتاح لا. انا هغز ابو العيال. وهو يبدأ بقى انت لو

I look relaxed, no. I'm going to insult the father of the kids. And it starts, well, if you...

اتجوزت انه هاخد العيال. انت مش عارف ايه. الكلام ده كله.

I married him because I will take the kids. You don’t know what this is all about.

القانون هنا في تونس الحمد لله بيحمل المرأة وبيضمن كل واحد

The law here in Tunisia, thank God, supports women and ensures rights for everyone.

حقه الكلام ده كله. اه. بس انت في النفسية من الكلام ده كله. ابنك

He has the right to all this talk. Yes. But you are in the mindset of all this talk. Your son.

اللي قاعد بيتمرمط ما بين ابوه وامه وبيشوف امه بتتجوز مع واحد

The one who is struggling between his father and mother and seeing his mother getting married to someone else.

تاني وابوه مش عارف رايح. ايه. وبيخرج مع دي ومع دي. متوقع يطلع

His dad doesn't know where he's going. What is it? And he's hanging out with this one and that one. Expecting him to come out.

ولد نفسي نعمل ازاي. واحد مش معنا كده ان هو ان هو اه الناس

I don't know how to work. Just because someone is with us doesn't mean that they are people.

كلها تبقى وحشة. لا لا لا لا في ناس بتمر بحاجات زي دي وبتبقى

It’s all still terrible. No, no, no, no, there are people who go through things like this and become...

تطلع قويسة وكل حاجة. وفما فما مع انت توازن اه. ما نقدرش نذكر دور

Everything looks good and all. And there is a balance, yes. I can't mention the role.

الاسرة في تكوين الطفل من جزء النفسي. الجزء النفسي اللي عامل

The family is a key factor in a child's development. The psychological aspect is a significant part of this.

كبير قوي الجزء الاجتماعي اللي عامل كبير قوي في تكوين نفسية

The social aspect plays a very significant role in shaping one's psyche.

الطفل. وهذا انت شفته في خدمة كوريتو عمارسته سنين سنين. ده

The child. And you saw this in the service of Koreto that I practiced for years and years. This.

ما تنجبش تقولها هكيكة وجوست كل ما وقعها. يعني اليوم الشاب

You can't just say it like that and go through everything that happened. I mean, today's youth...

اللي عمره تلاتين سنين. اليوم اللي عمل حاجة خايبة لطفلة. اه.

The one who is thirty years old. The day he did something bad to a girl. Yes.

ضرب هنبدأ بالضرب. لا لا انت مشيت لا انت مشيت للاكستريم ما

We're going to start with the beating. No, no, you went too far. You really went to the extreme.

انت. ما ده هو انا بجيبه من بيتي. لا لا هو انت مشيت للاكستريم اما

You. What is it? I bring it from my house. No, no, you went to the extreme, but...

موجود بيتبع عليه موجود. الضرب المشاكل النفسية. اه. اه. انا

There is someone who is being followed. Hitting psychological issues. Ah. Ah. I.

عودت ان ابويا ولا والابويا بيعمل امي بطريقة كزا او كزا او

I used to say that my father, or rather my father, treats my mother in this way or that way.

بيعمل كزا فهو لي كزا. طب هل هو ظهري يدي صح والغلط? لا ما

He does this and that, so it's because of this. But is it right or wrong for him to support me? No, it's not.

عرفش. بس انا اتربت لقيت كده فانا هعمل كده. انت ما فكرتش

I don't know. But I grew up finding things this way, so I will do it this way. Haven't you thought about it?

اللي وهل اتمنى الكلام ده صح والغلط? لا ما فكرتش. بس انا

I wish this was true, is it right or wrong? No, I haven't thought about it. But I...

شفت كده وانا اطلعت اهو سليمك قدامك وزي الفل فانا عادي اللي

I saw this and when I came out, here is your safety in front of you and everything is fine, so it's normal for me.

هو هعمله عادي. جزء برضو من الصحة النفسية فكرة ان دي برضو

I will do it normally. It's also part of mental health that this is also...

انت ده تليفونك وانت بتحبيني وانا بحبك هاد كده تليفونك كده

This is your phone, and you love me, and I love you. Is this how your phone is?

اشوفه. اه. لأ مش هديهه لك. انت وحش. انت وحش انت ما تحبينيش.

I see him. Oh. No, I won't give him to you. You're mean. You're mean, you don't love me.

اه. مش عارفيني. نفس الكلام. نفس الكلام للولد. انا دلوقتي

Oh. They don't know me. The same words. The same words for the boy. I'm right now.

تليفوني. ابوي بيستلف مني فلوس. اخوي بيستلف مني فلوس. مديري

My phone. My dad is borrowing money from me. My brother is borrowing money from me. My boss.

بيهزقني في الشغل. اه. انت ليه لازم تشوفي ماسج زي دي. انت يا

He annoys me at work. Yeah. Why do you have to see messages like this? You, oh.

ستي انا عملت حاجة ضيقتك بتفضي مع اختك او بتاخدي رأي اختك او

Mom, did I do something that upset you? Should I talk it over with your sister or get her opinion?

مامتك في الموضوع دي. بليس الصحة في الموضوع دي بعد. ايه ايه ايه.

Your mom is involved in this matter. Please clarify the health aspect in this issue. What what what.

تمام? بتاخدي رأيها في حاجة زي دي. طب اتصرف في الزي. طب انا

Okay? You take her opinion on something like this. So, handle it with the outfit. So I...

صالحه ازاي. طب عايز اجيب له هداية عيد الميلاد. انت ليه لازم

How is Salha? I want to get him a birthday gift. Why do you have to?

تشوف كلام ده كله. يعني مع انت كالنجم كالنجم حوصل مؤمن. اه ما

You see all this talk. I mean, as you are the star, as the star, I will be a believer. Yes, what.

ينجمش يكون شخص مثلا عمل في حاجة في علاقة معينة. عمل اه

Someone can be, for example, someone who did something in a certain relationship. Yes, they did.

تصرف غريب اه اخلع من غير مفسر. اه كذبة

Strange behavior, yes, take it off without explanation. Yes, a lie.

في علاقة. وخلى مثلا الشخص المقابل مش مش بيقول مرأة ولا

In a relationship. And for example, the other person is not saying whether it's a woman or not.

راجل مش مشكل. اه ما انت يقول لي ايه. اه توفى العلاقة لهنا.

A man is not a problem. Yes, what do you want to tell me? Yes, the relationship has ended here.

وحاسس انه الشخص اذيك اذيه نفسيا. اه. يعني هذيك ضحية. زيدة

I feel that that person is psychologically harming you. Yes. I mean, that one is a victim. They are also affected.

نفسية. هل هو ضحية نفسية? عاقدر انت قلت ليه? بازا عنده ترومة.

Psychological. Is he a psychological victim? Why did you tell me that? Does he have trauma?

بازا عمل كذب ولا ضرب ولا عمل واحد وكل. ضحية نوعا ما لكن هكا

He didn't lie, nor did he hit anyone, nor did he do anything. The victim is somewhat like this.

ولا هكا مش مش بيك عامل معه.

And that's not how you deal with him.

بس انا اختياري. انا اللي اخترت ابقى معاه. انا اللي ما

But it's my choice. I chose to stay with him. I'm the one who didn't...

حسبتهاش صح? صح. ده انا اختياراتي غلط. صح. اختياراتي

Did I not calculate it correctly? Correct. My choices are wrong. Correct. My choices.

مدمرة حياتي. هي فعلا كده. بالزبط. فانتي بالزبط انت اقول لك

The destroyer of my life. She really is like that. Exactly. So you exactly, I tell you.

انا حاجة انا دايما برضو بقول حاجة. بلاش ترتبطوا يا جماعة

I have something to say, I always say something. Don't get involved, guys.

بحد معاك في الشغل. ابوس ايديكوا اوعى تعملوا دي اكبر

I'm in a tight spot at work. Please, I beg you, don't make this any bigger.

خلطة. مش معناه كده ان هم وحشين. بس يوم لما يحصل مشكلة ما بينكم

A mixture. It doesn't mean that they are bad. But when a problem occurs between you.

في الحساسية النظرية في الشغل شغالين انا وانتي على نفس وانتي

In theoretical sensitivity in work, you and I are working on the same and you.

عارفة ايه اللي حصل ما بيننا وفي حساسية في التعامل هتأفكت على

Do you know what happened between us? There is a sensitivity in the way we interact that has affected me.

الشغل هتأفكت على الكارير بتاعك الكلام ده كله. صعبة ايه اصلا

The work will affect your career; all this talk. What’s so difficult about it anyway?

بالحقيقة. بالزبط. بالزبط. فانتي تخيلي واحد انت بتشتغل معه.

In fact. Exactly. Exactly. So imagine someone you're working with.

اربعة وعشرين ساعة انت بتشوفيه. وتجوزتي. بروحين برضو البيت مع

You see him twenty-four hours. And you got married. You still go home with him.

بعض. جايين مع بعض. اتوا قد النفس قوة. اكا دي كان مهمة.

Some. We're coming together. They have the strength of spirit. This was a mission.

بالزبط. وان الناس برضو بتخلط ما بين وقتي انا في وقت ما بينك انت

Exactly. And people also confuse my time with your time.

وانتي والبارتنر. وفي وقت ما بينك انتي ونفسك. ومشكلتنا ظهر لي

You and your partner. And at some point between you and yourself. And our problem has become clear to me.

منطفين وكالوقت ذيك مع روحك. مم. ويصطحلوا فما آآ سوري باش

They are just like that time with yourself. Mm. And they are fine, so it's okay. Sorry for that.

ننزل في الرجال المرة هذه. فما رجال ماشي في بيلها. اه لأ والله

We're staying with the men this time. So there are no men walking in her path. Oh, no way.

والله مؤمن. فما رجال ماشي في بيلها. وحكيناها قبل في في الحلقة

By God, I am a believer. So what are the men walking in her area? We discussed it earlier in the episode.

اللي فاتت. فما رجال ماشي في بيلها معناته سلب للحرية. مهو ليه

Last time. There are men going in her way, which means a violation of freedom. Why is that?

ممكن تلقى بارتنر تحترم وقتك الروحك. خطر انه زادة كست حاشتي

You can find a partner who respects your time and your soul. It's also dangerous that you are in need.

بوقتي الروحي وحدي. وقعدت ستات ومشي الكوفير ودرشنة وحدك. حاشتي

My spiritual time is just for me. I sat down with the women, the hairdresser walked by, and I was left alone. It's a disaster.

بوقتي الروحي. اما زادة فما وقت ما بعضنا. وانت زادة حر وحدك

In my spiritual time. There is no time for us, and you are free alone as well.

عندك وقت القهوة والبلايستيشن وكذا والجيم وكل. اما فما زادة

You have time for coffee, PlayStation, the gym, and all that. But nothing more.

وقت ما بعضنا. مش اي رهو سلب لحريتك لانه فما نوعية اليوم من

It's time for us to have some. It's not just any kind of freedom taken from you because there is a type of today.

العلاقات الجديدة. واللي هي ثقافة التخلي. وهاك معايا ومكش

New relationships. And that is the culture of letting go. Come with me and don't be afraid.

معايا. واحنا ما بعضنا ونشوف وين باش توصلنا. والمصطلح الجديد

I'm with you. We'll see where we'll reach together. And the new term.

اللي توا واخو مع انت هكا حايز كبير اللي هو هاني معاك ومش

The one who is currently with you is a large brother, which is me, with you and not.

معاك. وانا ما بعضنا ومش ما بعضنا. شنو هو هاد? ده يرجع لنفس

With you. And I'm not apart from you and not with you. What is this? It goes back to the same.

النقطة اللي انا قلتها بتاعة الموبايل. لما احنا ارتبط انت

The point I mentioned about the mobile phone. When we got connected, you...

حياتك مستباحة بالنسبة لي. انا عامل فيها اللي معي زيون تي تلبس

Your life is open to me. I treat it as if I have an invitation to dress as I please.

يقول لي انت تلبسي.

He says to me, "You are wearing."

يعني بص موضوع برضو اللبس برضو هتكلم برضو فيه برضو في

I mean, the topic of clothing, I will also talk about it too.

العلاقات برضو مع واحد يكون عنده مشكلة نفسية في اللبس

Relationships also involve someone who has a psychological issue with clothing.

والكلام ده كله. انت اعرف الشخص اللي انت هترتبط بيه من

And all this talk. You know the person you will be connected with better than anyone.

الاول. هيتقبل. هيتقبل. الحاجات اللي انت فيها ولا لا.

First. It will be accepted. It will be accepted. The things you are in or not.

بالزبط. ولا داخل حياتك عشان غيرك. ايه اللي ما زيد احد صحيح

Exactly. And not entering your life for someone else. What is it that does not increase someone correctly?

تحتها الولاد برب نداء للولاد اللي يسمعوا فينا. لو كتحب

Underneath, the boys are asking for a call to the boys who are listening to us. If you want.

مثلا اي بي سي في اللبس ولا اي بي سي في المعاملات. اختارك

For example, ABC in clothing or ABC in transactions. Choose one.

واحدة كده. صحيح. لانك انت اللي عجبتك. مش تجيل الواحدة وتحب

One like that. That's right. Because you're the one who liked her. You don't just come to someone and love them.

تقول بها انت كي ما تحبها. انت انت عاجبك البنت اللي لابسة

"You say it how you like it. You like the girl who is wearing..."

وحتى اه مش عارف ايه. صحيح. مش عارف ايه. ومدى ما ترتبط بيها

And I don't even know what. That's right. I don't know what. And to the extent that it is related to it.

تقول لها سامحني لازم تتحجب. انت جاي من اكستريم الاكستريم او

She tells her, "Forgive me, you must wear the hijab. You come from extreme circumstances."

حتى مش كده يا حبيبي انت عجبتك عشان هي شكلها كده. انت لما

Not only that, my dear, you liked her because of how she looks. When you...

تغيرها متوقع ان هي تعجبك. ما عارفش بس انا تعودت ان احنا راجل

The change is expected to please you. I don't know, but I got used to the fact that we are men.

بيقول مش عارف كزا وامرأته بتسمع. تعودت عندنا. تعود حاجة

He says he doesn't know a few things and his wife is listening. She got used to it here. It's become a habit.

والتنفيذ حاجة والزمن بغير الزمن والكلام ده كله. ارجع لي

"Implementation is necessary, and the timing is different, and all this talk. Come back to me."

للفكرة متاع التعالي والعلاقات الغريبة دي اللي هني معاك ومش

For the idea of superiority and the strange relationships that I have with you and not.

معاك وهني نقرب منك مرة وبعد نبعد ونظهر في حياتك وبعد نمشي.

I'm with you, and here we get close to you once, then we distance ourselves and appear in your life, and then we leave.

شنوة هذا? ده الاختفاء. تمام? اختفاء اه اه اتخطف ولا راح فين

What is this? This is the disappearance. Okay? Disappearance, yeah, yeah, was he kidnapped or where did he go?

حد شافه يا جماعة. صحيح. بالزبط. ده وعادي هو بنزل

Has anyone seen it, guys? That's right. Exactly. It's normal, he's going down.

ستوريز ولا شايفه والكلام ده كله. بس نرجع برضو الفكرة انت

Stories or I haven't seen it and all that talk. But let's get back to the idea, you.

داخل الفلقة دي. انت انت يا جماعة زي برضو ما قلت ما ترتبطوش مع

Inside this circle. You, you guys, as I said, don't get involved with...

حد هيضيع وقتك. وبالاخص انت بنت انت اللي هتتضرر اكتر. احنا في

Someone will waste your time. Especially since you are a girl, you will be more harmed. We are in...

مجتمع حبيتي ولا كريهتي. صح. مجتمع زكوري. صح. مجتمع شرقي.

A community you love or hate. Right. A male-dominated community. Right. An Eastern community.

مجتمع عنده قيم وكلام ده كله. والسيدة الكبيرة اللي بتوصل في

A society that has values and all this talk. And the elderly lady who is reaching out.

سن معين وما بتتجوش بيبصلها نظرة مختلفة وبيعملوها معاملة

A certain age, and they don't look at her with a different gaze, and they treat her differently.

مختلفة. بغض النظر الكلام اللي انا بقوله ده هيضيق ناس. وانا

Different. Regardless of the words I'm saying, this will upset people. And I...

عارف انه هو هيضيق ناس بس حبيت ولا كريهت ده اللي موجود. وده

I know it will upset some people, but I liked it or disliked it; that's what's there. And that.

اللي بيحصل. وانت جزء في المجتمع ده. ايه. مع الاسف لكن

What is happening. And you are a part of this society. What. Unfortunately, but

هذي اللي سايرة. ده اللي بيحصل. فانت لازم تقبلي كل حاجة هي

This is what’s happening. So you have to accept everything as it is.

موجودة وتبني حياتك. بس تبني حياتك لو هتبنيها تبنيها مع

You are present and building your life. But if you are going to build your life, build it with…

حد شخص صح ما ضيع لكيش واقع. وليلي هنا انا معك في في حاجة

"Someone is right, don't waste your reality. And tonight I'm here with you for something."

انه نقعد نقعد وحدي ولا اني نضيع في وقتي مع شخص ما هوش

I prefer to sit alone rather than waste my time with someone who isn't worth it.

فاهم روحه وما هوش فاهمني ومش تضيع عليه وقت. مثلا اوكي انا

He understands himself but doesn't understand me, and I'm not going to waste my time on him. For example, okay, I...

عمري اليوم قريب اربعة وثلاثين. اما مع وحدي اختياراتي وجوي به

I am almost thirty-four today. As for my choices and my atmosphere with it.

الى ان يأتي لانه خلينا متفقين انه نزاوج الرزق معنتها ومعنتها

Until it comes, because we agreed that we combine sustenance with its meaning and its essence.

وهو معنتها مكتوب. فساعة انا نعمل اللي عليا نكون موجودة

It means "It's written. So whenever I do what I need to do, I will be present."

حاضرة.

Present.

نفسانيا طاقيا جسديا لاني باش نرتبط بشخص. لكن يا اما

Psychologically, energetically, and physically, because I want to connect with someone. But either...

ارتبط بشخص بش يزيدني وبش يقدم بيا واحدة وكل ولا ما تضيع ليش

"I am connected to a person who adds to me and who brings me someone, and everything should not be wasted."

وقتي. بالضبط. معنت انا وصلة اليوم في عمارة ثلاثينيات.

My time. Exactly. I mean, I arrived today at a building from the thirties.

وانتو كالبنات في عمارة ثلاثينيات. حتى حتى اصغر شوية

"And you are like girls in a building from the thirties. Even a little smaller."

من ثلاثينيات. معنتها تسعة وعشرين ثمانية وعشرين. تعال شنو

From the thirties. Meaning twenty-nine, twenty-eight. Come on, what?

تقول لك تو تقول لك ما عنديش وقت. ما عنديش وصعبال. شطورة.

She tells you, "I don't have time. I don't have it and it's difficult. Clever."

بالحق. وانا وصلة الاستيب هذي ما عنديش وصعبال. منعرش نقرأ

Honestly. As for this step, I don't have it and it's difficult. I don't know how to read.

الافكار انا. اه منعرش. خليك صحيح. خليك صحيح. ديني السؤال فوش.

Ideas are me. Oh, I don't know. Stay true. Stay true. Give me the question.

صحيح. احكي معايا احكي معايا معنتها عالورق. حاشتك اي بي سي

That's right. Talk to me, talk to me means on paper. You need A, B, C.

يلا مرحبا. كالعلاقة الغير المفهومة رهي يصير خايبة. وما

Come on, hello. A misunderstood relationship can become terrible. And not...

ترضوا هيش لرويحكم.

You will be satisfied like this for your souls.

راهو كطفلة انا باش نقول لك اي شنو هو هيدا فيش قاعد تعمل انت

"Listen, as a child, I will tell you what this is; what are you doing?"

شنو قاعد تعمل شنو تحب من منعرش نفسانية ان شنو تتسمى هذية. اما

What are you doing? What do you want? I don't know how to describe this. But...

انا بالنسبة ليلي امرأة عادي باش تاخدوا موقف وتقولوا انت احنا

For me, I am an ordinary woman so that you take a position and say, "You are us."

شنو هو الا ولا هي تعمل انت ممكن واضح في مشاعرك اي بسلامة. انت

What is it? Is it that you are clear in your feelings? Yes, be safe. You.

كلام صح بس تكملة بقى على الكلام ده كله بس دي عادة تحصى في

It's true, but there's more to this whole conversation; this is just a habit that is counted in...

البنات اكتر من الالات. انت عرفتي واحد. اه. وده البد بوي.

Girls are more than machines. Did you know one? Yes. And this is the bad boy.

البنات بتحب البد بوحة. بحب كده اللي هزقني وعادة اكمل معك كلام

Girls love Al-Badd Bouha. I like it when he annoys me, and usually, I continue talking with you.

ده كلام. الحلقة هذي تسمعوها في دادي وشاقي مع دادي وشاقي الحلقة

This is talk. You will listen to this episode in Dadi and Shaki with Dadi and Shaki episode.

اللي ما انت الحلقة رقم حديش ذهلي حسين لو تصدقاها مكتوب عليها

"Whoever you are, this is the number of my episode. Believe it or not, it's written on it."

بد بوي ولا بد جر. الاتنين. صحيت برافو صديقي برافو. والله تعاركت

Bad boy or bad wolf. Both. You woke up, bravo my friend, bravo. I swear I fought.

معهم قلت لهم الاتنين. الاتنين. الاتنين يا حبيبي. الاتنين. الاتنين.

I told them both. Both. Both my dear. Both. Both.

بد بوي وبد جر. طب انا هسه اتكلم بس في حقيقة. انت عرفتي بد بوي.

Bad boy and bad girl. Now I am just speaking the truth. You know bad boy.

باي. تمام? ما بيشتغلش. بياخد مصروف من ابوه ومن امه. اه لهذا.

Bye. Okay? He doesn't work. He gets money from his dad and his mom. Oh, for that.

اكمل بقى. هذا اتعس من بد بوي هذا. لا لا لا لا. بياخد بياخد من

Finish it then. This is sadder than that bad boy. No, no, no, no. It takes, it takes from...

ابوه وامه وسعاد بيشتغل وسعاد ما يشتغلش والكلام ده كله. والوالد

His father and mother are working and Suad is not working, and all this talk. And the father...

جميل وبيحبه بتاع صغراته وخرجاته بتاعه. وعجبني. انا عايز اعزاها.

It's beautiful, and he loves its little details and outings. I liked it. I want to congratulate her.

عايز اعزاها. خدي تفضلي يا اختي. تفضلي خدي. بعد ما اخدته. تقارن

I want to invite her. Here, take it, my sister. Please take it. After I took it. Comparing.

فيه مع صاحب مع صاحب بالوالد اللي صاحبتها مرتبطة به اللي هم

There is a friend with the father whose friend is in a relationship with him.

هتخطبوا وهيتجوزوا قريب. يا اخي احنا علش ما نيش مش نتخطب ولا

You will get engaged and married soon. Why aren't we getting engaged?

بتاع ولا بتاع. وهو اصلا مش مهتم. هو عايش بلاي فستايل لوحده وبتاع

"Is it this or that? He's not really interested. He's living a laid-back lifestyle on his own and that's it."

وانت عجبك ومسكتي فيه وبالعافية وهزقت نفسك وارضيتي بنفسك. انك

You liked it and held on to it with difficulty, embarrassed yourself, and satisfied yourself. That you...

تكوني معه مع واحد غريب وعجيب وبتاع. فانت جاية بعد ما دخلتي

You are with a strange and odd person, and you're coming after you entered.

وقع في معه وقعتي فترة طويلة. لا انا هذي ما عاش عجبني. يا كذا

I had a long period of being with him. I didn't like this at all. That's how it is.

يا كل واحد على بعضنا. ما انتي خاسرانة. ما انتي اللي ضيعتي

Oh, everyone is on their own. You're not losing anything. You're the one who lost.

وقت في كل ده مع حد ما يسويش. طب لو انا كملت عاملي. انت لو

I've spent all this time with someone who isn't worth it. So what if I continue my behavior? You, if...

كملت برضو يبقى لازم تستحملي رايف ستايله وممكن تغيره ممكن

You also completed it, so you must endure his style, and you can change it, maybe.

لا. يعني اختيارك من لول دي جغلت. بالصبت. ام. فانت مشكلة ايه? انا

No. It means your choice is (from) Lol De Jghlt. Exactly. Um. So what's your problem? I am.

بختار غلط وعايز اغير الشخص بناء على وجهة نظري. والشخص ده مش

"I'm choosing wrong and I want to change the person based on my perspective. And this person is not..."

يتغير. اه هو انا كده يتقبلني ام يتقبلنيش. ام. معنى احنا ننسي

It changes. Oh, will it accept me like this or not? Um. Does that mean we forget?

عنك قابلية التحدي وتشالنج ومش يتغير عشاني. اه صلح نفسك يا

You have the ability to challenge and face challenges, and it won't change for my sake. Yes, fix yourself.

اختي. ديجا انتي ديجا فكس روحك ديجا البنية امان فكسيه وروحكم

My sister. You already fix yourself, already the girl, please fix yourself and go.

ديجا ديجا تعملوا حاجة بهيك تفكسيه وروحكم. خلي يابش تفكسيه

"Come on, you guys are doing something like this casually. Just keep it casual."

هو. انا غشش الناس كده سؤال انا دايما بحب اسأله قبل ما انا

He. I always like to ask people this question before I...

ادخل اي علاقة بقوله للبارتنر بتاعي. اوكي. ايه الحاجات اللي

Enter any relationship by telling my partner. Okay. What are the things that...

في بتاعي متوقعة لو احنا دخلنا مع بعض ممكن تعمل مشاكل.

In my opinion, if we enter together, it could cause problems.

عاود. في سؤال انا ما دايما بستخدمه في اي علاقة قبل ما ادخل

Repeat. There is a question I don't always use in any relationship before I enter.

فيها. اوكي. سؤال. ومع انت تنصح به الناس اللي. جدا جدا جدا. يعني

Okay. Question. And do you advise people who are very, very, very... I mean...

ترك نفسية وفي علاقات. بتسأل السؤال ما احنا مش عاجبين بعض.

Leaving a psychological impact and in relationships. You ask the question, why don't we like each other?

انا عاجبك وانت عاجب داني وكلام ده كله. ايه الحاجات اللي تتوقع

I like you and you like me, and all that talk. What do you expect?

هي? اللي لو انا وانت بقى هنا في الحاجات دي في تصرفاتي او في

She? The one who, if you and I were here in these situations in my actions or in...

بتاعي ممكن تضايق. اللي هي ممكن تدمر. ونسميهم. بس اطفال.

"It's mine, it might bother you. It can destroy. And we call them. But they are just children."

انت انت سميله بقى. هو بيسألك. انت قولي له. انا مش عاجبني فيك

You are still the same. He is asking you. Just tell him. I don't like this about you.

واحد اتنين تلاتة. اوكي. او انت اسألها هي انا بقى متكلم انا كمؤمن.

One, two, three. Okay. Or you can ask her, I am speaking now as a believer.

لما انا بسأل السؤال ده ليه? لان انا عارف حاجات انا في نفسي انا

Why do I ask this question? Because I know things about myself.

مش فيها. بس بشوف الشخص اللي قدامي هيتقابلها ولا ايوم تاني.

It's not in it. I just see the person in front of me, will they meet her or not another day.

اوكي. تمام? هي قالتها وفي حاجة انا قصدي عليها عايز يعني لما

Okay. Is that alright? She said it, and there's something I mean by that. I want to, you know, when...

بسأل السؤال ببقى متوقع ان هي في حاجات هتجاوب عني. وفي حاجات

I ask the question expecting that there are things that will answer for me. And there are things...

تانية مثلا ولا ايه هي ما جابت سردها. فانا بفلاجة بقول لها.

For example, does she not understand? So I'm just telling her.

بس انا مثلا انا من نوع شخص بيحب السفر فبسافر. هل انت شخص

But for example, I am the type of person who loves to travel, so I travel. Are you a person...?

هتقبل حاجة زي ديتك? هتقول لك طب انا سافر معك ولا? في مرات

Will you accept something like this? Will you say, "Should I travel with you or not?" sometimes.

ممكن او في مرات لا. فانت تبقى عارف. تبقى عارف الشخص اللي قدامك.

Sometimes yes, sometimes no. So you have to know. You have to know the person in front of you.

ما ديه قبول الحاجات الاستحمام. اه طيارة. في اسئلة تانية بلاوي.

What are the requirements for showering? Oh, a plane. Are there any other questions?

في اسئلة دي بسألها دي والله العظيم قبل ما بتخرر ليش. وعشان

There are questions I ask myself, I swear to God, before I make a decision. And because...

كده مثلا. ما انت فيك كالتولكينج ستيجة دي كامل لو.

Like this, for example. You have the talking stage completely, right?

دي لازم. دي لازم عشان اعرف الشخص ده. احنا ممكن نفت مع بعض

This is a must. This is necessary so I can get to know this person. We can have a conversation together.

بنسبة كم في المية. بناء على كم في المية ديت انا بقدر هقولها

By what percentage? Based on what percentage can I say it?

تم الاول مش هكمل. لان في اسئلة منهم تبقى اسئلة نفسية خلي بالك.

The first part won't be completed. Because some of the questions will be psychological questions, be aware.

يعني عادي جدا ممكن حد تسأله السؤال ده والله العظيم دي

It means it's very normal; you could ask someone that question, I swear to God, it is.

حصلت له قبل كده. نعرفش انتي تعجبني. انتي انتي استيل كسابة.

I got it for him before. We don't know if you like me. You, you are a stylish person.

وانا وقع من الجنة وانا مش واخد ذالي. من عندي عيوب برضو يا جماعة.

"And I fell from heaven, and I didn't notice. I have flaws too, guys."

تكلموا في عيوب عرفوني عيوب. صحيح. انتي مش مهتمة. انتي عايزة

They talked about my flaws; they know my flaws. It's true. You're not interested. You want.

مسألة. يبقى انتي كده خلاص بتأكد البنت دي عايزة تبقى معي عشان

The question. So you are confirming that this girl wants to be with me because...

حاجة معينة. ومع الوقت بتظهر وبتبان. امم. امم. شفيني السؤال.

A specific need. And over time it appears and shows. Mmm. Mmm. Show me the question.

انت قبل ما تبقو في احسن فترة في عرف ايه هي ما قبل. بكتشف. الله

You, before you become in the best period, what do you know about what comes before? I discover. God.

على البنش لينات. الله على البنش لينات. والله العظيم. انت

On the bench are beautiful girls. By God, the girls on the bench. I swear to God. You.

لونك بص انا تعبت. انا بصراحة كمقمة بتعب. انا تعبت من لونك

I am tired of your color. Honestly, I am exhausted. I am tired of your color.

المفضل ايه وعندك كم خواتة دي او اكلتك المفضلة. انا تعبت من

What's your favorite, and how many sisters do you have, or what's your favorite dish? I'm tired of...

السؤال ده. انا عايزة خلاص ابقى اعرف مع واحدة. انا اعرف كل حاجة

This question. I just want to know with one person. I know everything.

عنه هي اعرف كل حاجة عنه. امم. بس في الفترة اللي انتو بتكتشفوا

I know everything about him. Umm. But during the time you are discovering.

فيها مع بعض انت بتكتشف حاجة كديدة. انا في في في في شخصيات.

In it, together, you discover something new. I am, in, in, in, in characters.

يعني كان سمحني يعني كان كان من من الاول هذيك اقولت انت احسن

It means you should have allowed me from the beginning when I said you are better.

فترة هي ما قبل. بالزبط. اذا كان في ما قبل عصابك متوترة ومكش

The period is what is before. Exactly. If there was something before, your nerves were tense and exposed.

فاهمة روحك ومكش فاهمته وما فامشة. بالزبط. اه. دجا دي. دجا

You understand yourself, but you don't understand him, and it didn't work out. Exactly. Ah. This is it. This.

دي. قوي. انت عارفة ليه هي ما قبل انك انت في الاول ولقيت حد ايه

"Yes. Strong. Do you know why it was before you were in the beginning and found someone?"

ده اخوة زي بزبط لا لا لا زي بزبط ده بالملي ده بيحب الحاجات

This is like exactly, no no no, it's exactly, this is to the millimeter, he loves things.

اللي انا بحبها ده بيعمل الحاجات اللي انا بحب اعملها لا لا لا.

The person I love does the things I like to do, no no no.

فالاحساس بيبقى جاي. امم. فاي اللي بيحصل وقتها بنعلي. بندخل

The feeling comes. Umm. So what happens then is we rise. We enter.

بقى في وسط تمام? بتبقى ساعات بتحصل في الاول وبعد كده بتبدأ

Is it okay to stay in the middle? Sometimes it happens at first, and then it begins.

بيقوم بيقوم بيقوم بيقوم. طب نصحيها ازاي? نصحيها ان احنا

He keeps getting up, getting up, getting up, getting up. So how do we wake her up? We wake her up by telling her that we...

حضرتك انا وانت ونتكلم. الكوميونيكيشن اهم حاجة في

You and I are present and we are talking. Communication is the most important thing in...

العلاقة. تقول لي انا ايه اللي بيديقني وانا ايه اللي بيعجبني

The relationship. She tells me what bothers me and what I like.

اهم حاجة. بقول لك انا. برشة مخ يا مؤمن. برشة مخ واحنا. طب

The most important thing. I'm telling you, a lot of brains, O Momen. A lot of brains, and we. Okay.

حلو انا معك. والقلب وين هذا? القلب موجود بص ما هو القلب

Sweet, I’m with you. And where is the heart? The heart is present, but what is the heart?

الاتنين مع بعض. انا ما ينفع اربط قلبي مع حد هو مش ميديه اي

"Both together. I can't tie my heart to someone who doesn't give me anything."

اهتمام. صح. صح. ما هو قلبه عاقل او انا حبيت واحد. هكا في

Attention. Right. Right. Is his heart reasonable or did I love someone? Like this.

في التريك اللي قلت لنا هذيك. صح. طفي القلب ودخل العاقل. شفتي

"In the trick you told us about earlier. Right. Turn off the heart and let the mind in. You see?"

بقى اللي انا قلت لك سنة في حتة دلوقتي بتاعة الولد عاجبها

What I told you a year ago remains in a place now that the boy likes.

الود بوي البد بوي والكلام ده كله. هنا القلب اشتغل بس العقل

The good boy, the bad boy, and all that talk. Here the heart worked, but the mind...

ميت. ميت. لا ميت. ومعش نجم تكمل. بزات. طب احنا بنشغل الاتنين

Dead. Dead. No dead. And a star continues. Exactly. So we are working both.

مع بعض. طب سؤال معلش انا البنت دي بحبها بس انا عارف لو انا وانت

Together. Okay, one question, excuse me, I love this girl, but I know if you and I...

دخلنا في علاقة مع بعض. اهلنا مش هيفت مع بعض. انا وانتي مش هنفت

We entered into a relationship together. Our families won't get along. You and I won't get along.

مع بعض وهنفت مع بعض بس بنقف فترة وبعد كده هنسيب بعض. ام. طب لي

"Together, we will have fun, but we will stop for a while and then we will leave each other. Um. Why?"

يا بنتي اشغل لك وقتك وتشغل لي وقتك. احنا نبقى اصحاب وحبيب ونسأل

My daughter, let's occupy your time and occupy my time. We want to be friends and loved ones and ask about each other.

على بعض الكلام ده كله. ام. وتلقى انت الشخص اللي معك وشخص.

About all this talk. Um. And you will meet the person you are with and the person.

الناس نرجع لنقطة اللي كنت بقول عليها تعرف انت عايز تعمل ايه

People, let's return to the point I was going to mention: you need to know what you want to do.

وتبدأ في الحاجة اللي انت عايزها. الناس مش عارفة هي عايزة هي عشان

"And you start with what you want. People don’t know what they want because..."

كده بيطلعوا مع ده ومع ده ومع ده. ايه ده? مش ده اللي انا عايزاه.

This is how they come out with this and this and that. What is this? This is not what I want.

فانا هعمل ايه? هختفي. هختفي يا ابا. ولد او بنت. يلا السلام

So what should I do? I'll disappear. I'll disappear, father. Boy or girl. Okay, goodbye.

عليكم. ام. الولد طبعا هيبقى يعمل ايه? هيمسك التليفون كده

You all. The boy of course will do what? He will hold the phone like this.

الجميل في وسطه قاعدة ترجع له. بص البت دي بتلزع نفسها. يا ام

The beauty in the middle has a base that goes back to it. Look, this girl is scaring herself. Oh mother.

يسيبك والله. انا مخدرات بالنسبة لها. ما تقدرش تعيش من

She'll leave you, I swear. I'm like drugs to her. She can't live without.

غيري. انا بقيت هروين. انا الهروين بتاعها. فاهم? ازاي? كل

Change me. I became heroin. I am her heroin. Do you understand? How? Everything.

يوم لازم تاخد المكالمة مني تتطمن عليها. او انا اتطمن عليها.

One day you must take the call from me to check on her. Or I will check on her.

مش عارفين. والان الاعلى يطلع والدنيا. انا باتكلم انا بقى

We don't know. And now the higher one comes out and the world. I'm talking now.

باتعمل مع الناس مرضى نفسيين. فانت متوقعة ايه? صح. متوقعة ايه?

You work with people who have mental illnesses. So what do you expect? Right. What do you expect?

ام. بس. وبلاش. استنى بقى. بقى نقطة بقى بعد اذنكم. بس انا

Mom. Enough. And no more. Wait a minute. Just a point, if you don't mind. But I...

بتتكلم بس في نقطة شركة هتبقى دي لتكبر فقط تمنتاشر سنة. اوكي.

You're talking, but regarding the company point, it will only be eighteen years old. Ok.

كبنت. بلاش تبعدي صورة لحد. حلو وحش مش عارف ايه? جوزك وخطيبك

As a girl, don’t send a picture to anyone. Good or bad, I don’t know what? Your husband and fiancé.

خلوها بعدك. مع بعضيكم انتم مع بعضيكم واش مع بعض بعض. ما

Leave her after you. You are with each other, what do you have with each other? No.

تبعديوا صورة كل حد. احنا صورنا عالسوشال ميديا ولا تتخوف. بصدر.

Remove everyone's picture. We took our pictures on social media, so don’t worry. Be calm.

ومع الاي اي ما نتكلم ده كله. بلاش تبعدي صورة كل حد. بلاش

And with AI, we're talking about all of this. Please don't erase everyone's image. Please.

تبعته في لحظة حميمية لطيفة ظريفة عشان ارضيه. الثقة. احنا

I followed him in a lovely, intimate moment to please him. Trust. We.

ثقة احنا بقول لك بقى ما هترست اشي. هو اصلا بيجي لك اصلا هو

We trust you, we're telling you that nothing will happen. He actually comes to you anyway.

بقى ورد نفسه. الشخص اللي بيطلب وص وردوها نقولها. لو في ولا طلب

He stayed in his place. The person who requests it, let us say it has been returned. If there is any request.

من بنتي حاجة زي دي. يبقى هو مش هتجوزها. هو مش عايزها. تسعين

My daughter doesn't want something like this. So he won't marry her. He doesn't want her. Ninety.

في المية من كلام ده. صح. صح. صح. بلاش تبعدي صورة كل حد. صح.

In a hundred percent of this talk. Right. Right. Right. Don't send away the picture of everyone. Right.

الناس بيتعمل لها هكا اسهل من حيالك ما فيش. يا سيدي هو كويس

People are treated like this; it's easier than your sense. Well, sir, he's good.

وانا كويس وبنحب بعض وتمام كل حاجة. بس في ناس اكل عشها. السلام

I'm good, and we love each other, and everything is fine. But there are people who are suffering. Peace.

المعلوماتية اردي دخلها في حيات. بالصح. باي عندي سؤال مهم.

Informatics has entered my life. Really. By the way, I have an important question.

اكيد. الترومة اللي تصير بعد اكتئاب متاع ولا لا خلينا ما

Sure. The trauma that happens after depression, whether it's there or not, let's leave it.

نقولش اكتئاب. الترومة اللي ولا الحزن اللي يصير بعد ما علاقة

We don't call it depression. It's just the sadness that occurs after a relationship.

والتوفى واحدة وكل. هل فعلا تأثر علينا جسديا يعني يعني كنقول انا

"Death is one and all. Did it really affect us physically, I mean, I'm saying..."

مثلا نفسانية انتعبة ولا مر بذلك.

For example, psychological tension did not occur or was not experienced.

نفسية واحدة وكل. هل فعلا انت الوجيعة اللي في قلبي نحس فيها

One psyche and everything. Are you really the pain that I feel in my heart?

وجيعة وجيعة. وجيعة بالحق. وجيعة نفسية. لان سبت فراغ كبير ما معنى

A pain, a pain. A true pain. A psychological pain. Because it left a huge emptiness, what does it mean?

كلمة سبت فراغ كبير. سبت فراغ كبير لان انا كنت متعودة الرتم

Saturday was a big void. Saturday was a big void because I was used to the rhythm.

بتاعي. متعودة بعمل باتصر بصحة من النوم بصباح الخير بقى بحط

It’s mine. I usually wake up in the morning, say good morning, and then I put...

المساج بتاعي. بل طبعي احنا تقابلوا اليوم تقابلوا غدو مش

"My message. By nature, we met today, are we meeting tomorrow or not?"

عارف كده كل الرتم ده اختلاف. العقل مش مستوع باللايفستايل انا

You know, all this rhythm is a difference. The mind cannot comprehend the lifestyle I'm in.

بمر بيه.

I am passing by him.

في حاجة مضايقانة اه ممكن عادي كده انهم اتنين وهم بيسيوا بعض

There is something bothering us, yes, it's normal that they are two and they are leaving each other.

بيسمعوا اوسخ كلام لبعض. اه. ويبدأوا يلا ياللي كذا يلا ياللي

They hear the dirtiest words from each other. Yeah. And they start saying, "Come on, you like this," "Come on, you like that."

كذا يلا ياللي كذا. متوقع ان اطلع نفسي انا عامل ازاي? متوقع

So, come on you who are like this. How do you expect me to present myself? I'm expecting.

اني عادي انا بتجاوز وتمعي من القوية والكلام ده كله وانت ضعيف.

I am normal, I can overcome and my determination is strong, and all this talk is because you are weak.

ولازم نعترف انك انت في مرحلة من مراحل العلاقة انك انت ضعفت

And we must acknowledge that at a certain stage of the relationship, you weakened.

فيها. طب نعمل ايه? نصلح الاضافة ده. نصلحه ازاي? قدي وقت

What should we do about it? How do we fix this addition? Give me time.

النفسي. اعمل حاجات اللي انا عايزها. الفاميلي تايم على فكرة

Psychological. I do the things I want. Family time, by the way.

يا جماعة مهم جدا ويساعد على العلاقة. اه. الولاد اخواتك اللي

Hey guys, it's very important and helps with the relationship. Yeah. The boys are your brothers.

بتلعبين معهم بيجروا حواليك والاطفال والكلام ده كله والناس

You play with them, they run around you, and the children and all that, and the people.

وقريبنا ولاد ده ولاد ده ولاد ده. بيساعد بيخليك تنسي هموم انت

"And our relatives' children are like this, these children. They help you forget your worries."

بتمر بيها. اه. احكي مع حد على ان بمر بيه ولا اه? تحكي مع حد

I'm going through it. Yeah. Should I talk to someone about what I'm going through or not? Talk to someone.

على ان انت بتمر بيه ده. لما انت تبقي كهسة انك تتكلم. اه. لما

You are going through this. When you feel like talking. Yes. When.

انت معين معين انكش مش تحكي في الموضوع. واحيانا بنوصل في

You are appointed, you are not supposed to talk about the subject. Sometimes we reach a point where...

مرحلة انا عايز اتكلم ومش عايز اسمع اي رد. عايز حد ينصحني. صح.

"I want to talk and I don't want to hear any response. I want someone to advise me. Right."

عايز اتكلم. جسد نحب نفرخ قلبي وكهاء. بالزبان كانوا بيعملوا

I want to talk. My body loves to inflate my heart and spirit. They used to do it with words.

ايه? نجيب وراء وقلم ويفضل يكتب يكتب يكتب ويقطع الورق. صح. هو

What? We bring a pen and paper and he keeps writing and writing and tearing the paper. Right. That's him.

بيكتب مذكرات وكلام. اه. تمام? بس هرجع اقول اتكلم مع حد لما

He writes diaries and talks. Yeah. Okay? But I'll go back and say to talk to someone when...

انت تبقي كهسة. ما تحاولش. اما جسد متجسدي علميا فم علاقة بين

You remain a mystery. Don't try. But a physically manifested body scientifically has a connection between.

كسرة قلبي. اكيد. واعراض نجم تجيني بدني رعشة وجعت راس. الناس

The fracture of my heart. Of course. And the symptoms of the star come to me: my body trembles, and my head hurts. People.

بتجيلها سكتة قلبي ازاي? هبوط في الدورة الدموية. استرس نفسي.

How does she get a heart attack? A drop in blood circulation. Psychological stress.

الناس بتتجيلها ازاي? ابسط ما فيها. الجلطة بتيجي للبني ادم

How do people get it? It's the simplest thing. A stroke happens to a human.

ازاي? واللي ولدت كبيرة عند الشباب. بالزبط. بتيجيله ازاي?

How? And the one who was born big among the youth. Exactly. How does it come to him?

معلوش علميا بقى لو حد بقوله الدكتور بيسمع الجلطة بتيجي

Excuse me scientifically, if someone tells me the doctor listens to the stroke, does it come?

ازاي? هبوط حد في الدورة الدموية. ايه اللي سبب الدورة

How? A drop in the circulatory system. What caused the circulation?

الدموية تتلخبط وبيحصل لها كده? نتيجة انفعال. السكر بيجي

Is it that blood gets mixed up and something happens to it? As a result of excitement. The sugar rises.

ازاي? وقت النظر على الاكل غير هلس والكلام ده كله. مع العصاب

How? The time to look at the food is different from just messing around and all that talk. With the nerves.

مع الكلام ده كله. انا مسلا والدي جاله السكر في شرطة احنا مرة

With all this talk, for example, my father got diabetes in the police.

الباكتة بتاعه تحرق. بسم الله. اغم عليه هبط صحي عنده سكر. يتعالج

His bag is burning. In the name of God. He fainted; his sugar level dropped. He needs treatment.

لما يتعالجش. فانت تخيل بقى انك انت بقى في علاقة بسبب علاقة انت

When it doesn't get treated. So just imagine that you are in a relationship because of a relationship you are in.

هيجي لك مرض. هتعيش طول عمرك تتعالج منه. حتى لو سبته انا جالي

You will get sick. You will spend your whole life being treated for it. Even if I left it, I got it.

مرض بسبب الشخص ده عشان في مرة تكلمنا نرفزني ولا عملنا ولا

"I got sick because of this person because we had a conversation once that irritated me, and we didn't even do anything."

وعملنا ولا. فنرجع ايه? لان انا كنت بقوله من الاول اختياراتنا

And did we do it or not? So what are we going back to? Because I was telling him from the beginning about our options.

من الاول هي بتكون سبب في تشكيل حاجات كتير قوي في حياتنا. في

From the beginning, it becomes a cause for forming many strong things in our lives. In

تشكيل صحتنا النفسية وصحتنا الكسدية واستكوين حتى مستقبلنا.

Shaping our mental health and physical health and even our future.

الشخص ده ممكن يكون مع اسرة ولا لا. اه. وقل مثلا هقول برضو دي

This person may be with a family or not. Yes. And I can also say this.

للبنات اكتر بتحصل. تتعرفي على حد. تدخلوا بيتكم. تقعدوا

Girls get it more often. You meet someone, go into your house, and hang out.

معهات سنة واثنين وتسيبين. يوم تاني لما هتقول لها انا عارف

You're with her for a year and two, and then you leave. Another day when you tell her I know.

حدها. افضل ما فيها كومنت هيترين. هيدا زعمة هيدا يبش يكون

That's it. The best part about it is the hate comments. This is supposedly supposed to be.

بيها ولا كيمة الاخر. صحيح. صح ولا. صحيح. انت بيحصل او

It's not worth anything else. That's right. Is it correct? That's right. Do you get it or not?

بيحصلش. انا قاسي شوية في دي وبتقول امثلة بس يا جماعة اللي

It doesn't happen. I'm a bit harsh on this, and you give examples, but guys, those...

هيهجمني دي امثلة حية موجودة. صحيح. وانتو بتمروا بيه. لو انت

These are living examples that exist. That's right. And you are going through it. If you are...

عندك الحظ وربنا بيحبك ما مريتش بالحاجة زي ديت. اعرف ان حد

You are lucky, and God loves you; you haven't experienced something like this. Know that someone...

تاني مر بها. مر بها. صحيح. اختك. صاحبتك. بنت خالتك. بنت

The second time she passed by. She passed by. That's right. Your sister. Your friend. Your cousin's daughter. Daughter.

عمتك. بنت الجيران. صاحبتك تقرأ معها. صاحبتك تطمع. مر بها. احنا

Your aunt. The neighbor's daughter. Your friend reads with her. Your friend is greedy. He passed by her. We.

كاولاد لأسف كحتى تحليلات النفسية ما بتبقاش موجودة كتير.

As children, unfortunately, even psychological analyses are not often available.

للاولاد عشان ما فيش حد بيتكلم. هقول لك اوصل ما فيها. كم بنت?

"For the kids because no one is talking. I will tell you how many there are. How many girls?"

اخر شهر كده اللي بتسمع انا في اخر شهر. في اخر اخر تلاتين يوم

Last month, what you hear is "I am in the last month." In the last thirty days.

كم مرة دخلت وكنت بعيط فيها لوحدي. بسبب او من غير سبب. في

How many times have I entered and been crying alone, for a reason or without a reason. In

كزء هيرمون في كزء بتعيط عشان نفسي صعبت عليا. انا نفسي صائدة.

As a part of a hormone in a part where you cry because I felt it was hard on me. I wish to be a hunter.

انا بصحب اشتغل وده بيسمعني كلمة وده بيسمعني كلمة وده بيسمعني

I am working and this one hears me a word and that one hears me a word and that one hears me.

كلمة. هي فكرة انه بتصعب عليا نفسي يعني انا اقول ما مسخفتني

The word is an idea that I find it difficult to accept for myself, meaning I say I am not embarrassed.

في الاخر كان روحي. مسخفتني روحي. اه مسخفتني كان روحي. مسخفتني

In the end, it was my soul. My soul turned me upside down. Oh, my soul turned me upside down. It turned me upside down.

كان روحي. واذيك شنية ديكة ديكة ديكة خايبة. اه. نتيجة ما فيش

It was my spirit. And what’s that, that, that bad thing? Yes. There's no result.

حد يتطلب عليا. ما فيش حد يقول لي. انت ذكر فما مرة بمرات وقصم

Someone is demanding from me. No one tells me. You are a male, so every time is a time and an arrangement.

بالليك انت عرفتي في الخدمة عاملت معايا فازل عاونتني فيها

So you knew that in the service, you worked with me and helped me with it.

وبعد جبت لها الشوكولات واختلت لها شوكولات واختلت لها شوكولات

And then I brought her chocolate and mixed her chocolate and mixed her chocolate.

وقعدت تبقي قدامي. واختلت لي شنين والشوكولات ما عجبتني. قالت

And she sat in front of me. She gave me two things, and I didn't like the chocolate. She said.

لي قالت لي ما زالت كي خرجت تا وما ميتم وكانوا يعيطوا عليا وانت

She told me that she still called out to me until she left, and you were crying out for me.

عاملش وانت وانت وانت وانت انت تعطيني في شوكولات وتقول. فعرفتك

"How are you? And you, and you, and you, and you, you give me chocolate and say. So I recognized you."

البكية خرجت الكل. انا مشاعري. اي اي. كتمت كتمت كتمت يا اخي.

The crying came out of everyone. My feelings. Yes, yes. I suppressed, suppressed, suppressed, oh brother.

دخلت في بعضها. انا بهية ولا خايبة دخلتك في حالة من عرش انا

I entered into it. I am Bahya and not a failure, you entered me into a state of a throne I am.

كويسة ولا اسمع كلامتها ولا اسمع كلامتها نفسيا. بس. انا بقول لك

Are you good or should I listen to her words? Psychologically. That's it. I'm telling you.

لو شفت التلاتين يوم مواضي كده انت قايمي فيها نفسك. اه. على قد

If you saw the thirty days, you would think that you are doing well in it. Yes. As much as possible.

ما بتزيد نسبة العياط على قد ما انت هتعرفي نفسيا انك انت في

The amount of crying doesn't increase as much as you psychologically understand that you are in.

حادة وحشة قوي. في عياط كده من عياط ونتيجة هرمونات فيسيولوجية

It’s a strong, sharp loneliness. It’s a crying situation due to physiological hormones.

بتحصل في جسم الانسان ما تكونش علاقة بها. ليه ربنا طبيعة بناء

It happens in the human body that has nothing to do with it. Why does God have the nature of construction?

ادم ربنا بيخلقنا بها. وفي حاجات بتحصل احنا محتاجين لها تفسير.

Adam, our Lord creates us with this. And there are things that happen for which we need an explanation.

ولو انا مش عارفة تفسير. وحتى كان مش عياط للبنات للاولاد. عدم

Even if I don't know the interpretation. And even if it wasn't crying for girls for boys. Absence.

سعادة. قلق. وجاعة من داخل. ما تعيطش. ما تعيطش. تصحيت. تعمل

Happiness. Anxiety. And hunger from within. Don't shout. Don't shout. You woke up. You act.

ايه? الدخل. الدخل. الدخل. تغسل الدخل. عندي اجي مسال. رغل

What? The entrance. The entrance. The entrance. You wash the entrance. I have a question. Man.

كان فاما طفول يسمع البرودكاست هذه. فاما برشا رجال يسمع. تعرف

Once, a child used to listen to this broadcast. Many men listen. You know.

انت كي تروح للدار وسيقل كرهبة. وعندما ترك الكرهبة بحتى تبيع

You go home and the car is gone. And when you leave the car, you might sell it.

الدار. بتاخدها كالوتا تشت بورتاب تحل فيديو بتاخدها كالانستجرام

The house. You take it like a call, it becomes a port to solve a video, you take it like Instagram.

وتاخدها كالتقلب. بتحكي مع حاجة تقايد في العربية مص ساعة او

You take it as a fluctuation. You're talking about something that can be expressed in Arabic for half an hour or so.

ربع ساعة تلت ساعة. تعملش حاجة. ده العياط بتاع الرجال. ده الوقت

A quarter of an hour, half an hour. Don't do anything. This is the men's crying. This is the time.

اللي هو نفسه. بس عشان ما يؤذيش نفسه من كتر التفكير بيتفرج على

Which is himself. But in order not to hurt himself from overthinking, he watches.

العياد فيديوهاته خلاص. مش ما عنديش حاجة. عندك حاجة تعملها

The videos are done. I don't have anything. Do you have something to do?

بتاع بالحب تطلعها مرقت. بيه يطلعها مرقت لانا. دقيقة انا شادي

The one with love, you bring it out as a delicacy. It brings it out as a delicacy for us. Wait, I am Shadi.

بورتابل شوي. قاعد في الكربان بيعملش اي حاجة. بيعملش ولا حاجة

A bit portable. He's sitting in the caravan, not doing anything. He isn't doing anything at all.

قاعد. لان احنا عيب الرقل يا عياد. عيب الرقل يقود تعبان

I'm sorry, but we have a problem, O Ayad. The problem leads to exhaustion.

نفسه. اه. اه. وفعلا ما انت انا هذي ما انت نراها حتى في حكايات

Himself. Ah. Ah. And actually, you are me; we don't even see this in stories.

هو وهي. انا اقول له معلش يمسوني برش حكايات الرجال لانه قليل انه

He and she. I tell him, "No worries, tell me some stories about men because it’s rare."

الراجل يجي يحكي لك حكايته. ووقت اللي يحكي لك حكايته يحكي

The man comes to tell you his story. And when he tells you his story, he speaks.

هيلك بكل صدق ويفرخ كل شيء. يعني يقول لك كل شيء. لو لو الراجل جاي

"Your mind is truly insightful and reveals everything. It means it tells you everything. If, if the man is coming."

واحكي لك الحكاية ما يخفيك ما يخفيش عليك حتى تفصيل. البنت لا.

And I will tell you the story; nothing will be hidden from you, not even the details. The girl, no.

ذي المرأة تخفي عليك تفاصيل باش ما تخرج شيء غالطة واكسيترا وكل.

This woman hides details from you so that nothing wrong comes out, etc.

اما الراجل اذا كان حكاية يحكي كل شيء وماش سهل الراجل باش يحكي.

As for the man, if he has a story, he tells everything, and it's not easy for a man to speak.

ولو ولو الراجل قال لك رنيه. مثلا حبيتها ومنسيتهاش ولا ولا

And if the man told you, "Show me." For example, I liked her and I can't forget her, no, no.

رني وصلت بكيت عليها ولا رني وصلت آآ ثلاثة ثلاثة شهور ولا

I arrived and cried about it, or did I arrive for three months or not?

ولا ثلاثة سنين ما نجمش نحياها من مخي اكسيترا اكسيترا. رب

And for three years, I couldn't live it from my mind, extra extra. God.

الحق. خطر ما هوش سهل باش يقولها. راجل باش يحكي التفاصيل

The truth. It's not easy for him to say it. A man will tell the details.

اذي ماش ماش سهلة. نتعادل ممكن اخر. تكتب لنا اخر بس جملة لو

This is very easy. We can equal it, maybe at the end. Just write us one last sentence if possible.

الراجل جاه واحكاه. اه. عن العلاقة ولا حاجة ولا حكاية. فاعرف

The man came and told me. Yes. About the relationship or anything or a story. So I know.

ان هو دي المرحلة المقبلة الاخيرة قبل ما هو ينفكر. بس. رجل ما

This is the last upcoming stage before he starts to think. Just. A man not.

حدش بيحكي. يعني دي كان قبل سيء. اخيرة بخطوة. بخطوة بقى انه

No one is talking. I mean, this was before it got bad. Finally, one step. It's now a step that...

يعور نفسه يرمي نفسه ويعمل اي حاجة في نفسه. والله العظيم انا

He injures himself, throws himself, and does anything to himself. I swear to God, I...

بتكلم عن كلام دا كله. والكلام دا كله للاسف وتحدد لوقت اي حد

I'm talking about all of this. And unfortunately, all of this is specified for a certain time for anyone.

هتلاقي مثلا في الكومنتات انا متأكد الف المية هيقول انه كنت

For example, you'll find in the comments, I'm sure everyone will say that I was.

فعلا محتاجة عن حد عشان اهم فجر. ايه. عايز اهم فجر عايز

I really need someone for an important dawn. What? I want an important dawn, I want.

اتكلم حتى لو الحد ده انا عارفه انك دي نرجع للنقطة بتاعت انا

Talk even if this limit is something I know, let's return to the point about me.

اتكلم ما تقول ليش اي نصايح انا مش عايز بانك انا عايز اتكلم

I want to talk, don’t tell me any advice; I don’t want to hear it, I just want to talk.

عايز حد يسمع. بس. بكل سهولة. اه بس نتعادل الحديث معك شيق

I want someone to listen. That's all. It's easy. Yes, but it’s interesting to have a conversation with you.

جدا مؤمن. بالحق شيق جدا للحديث. بس نكمل باخر كيستيون

Very devout. It's really interesting to talk about the truth. But let's finish with the last question.

لحقيقة. اه بعد بعد صدمة. مهمنيش في التفاصيل. تنجم تكون

To be honest. Oh, after the shock. I don't care about the details. It could be.

خيانة. تنجم تكون اه طالق. تنجم تكون اه علاقة ما مشيتش لانه

Betrayal. It could be, yes, a divorce. It could be, yes, a relationship that didn't go well because of...

الظروف ما سمحتش اه ينجم يكون اه اه سوء تفاهم. ما همنيش في

The circumstances didn't allow for it; there might be a misunderstanding. It doesn't matter to me.

التفاصيل. لكن علاقة بينزوز. وفات العلاقة اه اتكسر اللينك

The details. But the relationship ended. Yes, the link was broken.

هذيكة. ثلاثة خطوات هكا من تجربتك من ثلاثة خطوات مش

That. Three steps like that from your experience from three steps, right?

منتيحش. ثلاثة خطوات مش ننجم نقدم في حياتي. ثلاثة خطوات مش

I can't. Three steps I can't take in my life. Three steps I can't.

ننجم نعود نحب مرة اخرى ونربط روحي باي شخص. مرة ولا رجل.

I can love again and connect my soul with anyone. Once or a man.

هتكلم من تجربة شخصية حصلت.

I will speak from a personal experience that happened.

اديت وضع نفسي. تقبلت ان انا رمية سنين في الارض. عشان. ما

I expressed my situation. I accepted that I wasted years on the ground. Because. I don't.

حليها كلمة تقبل? تقبل. لازم تقبل. تقبل هزيمة. تقبل انك انت

Accept it, the word is accept? Accept. You must accept. Accept defeat. Accept that you are.

فشلت. دخلتها لقى فشلة. تقبل فكرة ان انا دخلت في حاجة طلعت

I failed. I entered it and found failure. Accept the idea that I got into something that turned out to be bad.

فشلة ومكملتش فيها. عايز اتجوزها. عايز اكمل حياتي. عايز

I failed and didn't continue with it. I want to marry her. I want to continue my life. I want.

اعرف واحد تاني وواحدة تانية. اكمل حياتي ابدأ. عايز اكون

I know another one and another one. Complete my life, I want to start. I want to be.

اسرة. اقعد مع نفسك. افهم.

Family. Sit with yourself. Understand.

انت عايز ايه? انا عملتها كان عندي عندي الحاجة كان عندي

What do you want? I did it, I had the thing, I had it.

القدرة ان اعملها انا سافرت دولة جديدة. ما اعرفش فيها ولا

I have the ability to do it; I traveled to a new country. I don't know anyone there.

حد. عشان اقدر افكر مع نفسي. وقت مع روحك لازم. وقت مع نفسي.

"Enough. So I can think to myself. Time with your soul is necessary. Time with myself."

قلت انه هروح اقعد اسبوع عشرتين. ما اعرف قعدت كم? شهر

I said I would go sit for a week or two. I don't know how long I stayed? A month.

ونص. واو. اقسم باللي ما كنتش بشتغل. فيش فلوس. بس روح الدولة

"And it said. Wow. I swear I wasn't working. There’s no money. Just go to the state."

كانت ترخيصة. تمام? مشيوا الكونت بتاع مؤمن مش تعرفوا

It was a license. Okay? Did you see the account of Moamen, you don't know?

الدولة تعرفوا التفاصيل في يعرفوا. يعرفوا. يعرفوا. عدت شوية

The state knows the details, they know. They know. They know. It's been a while.

فترة تقولك. يعني اكل وقت مع روحك. بقى اوكي كان ما نجمتش

"Period tells you. It means spending time with yourself. Okay, if I couldn't do it."

تسافر تنجم تنجم تعدي وقت مع روحك في اي بلسة. خد فاكونس مع

You can travel and spend time alone anywhere. Take a break with yourself.

نفسك. خد فاكونس مع نفسك. اوكي. مين فينا ما يحبش ياخد اجازة مع

Yourself. Take a vacation with yourself. Okay. Who among us doesn't like to take a break with...

نفسه? خد اجازة مع نفسك لسبب تعرف علش فاكونس مع نفسك. ما فيش

Yourself? Take a break with yourself for a reason you know. There's nothing.

حد حواليك. ما فيش حد هيفكرك بموضوع. اوكي. ما فيش حد هيكون

No one around you. No one will remind you of the topic. Okay. No one will be.

يسألك اخي وين هيديا ولا شنية صار مع هيديا تحبش تحكيلي بيحكيلي

My brother is asking where Hedia is or what happened with Hedia. Do you want to tell me? He wants to talk to me.

شنية دي صار عدت فترة ما رجعتش ورجعت على حتة بتفكرني بالشخص يعني

What happened, it's been a while since I came back, and I returned to a place that reminds me of a person.

حتى بعد الشهر ونص انا هرجع ومش هتقصر انا مش هعيط انا مش هاكون

Even after a month and a half, I will come back, and I won't fall short. I won't cry; I won't be...

انا كامل انا زي الفل. طيب هل انا مؤهل ان انا ادخل علاقة جديدة

I am complete, I am in a good place. So, am I qualified to enter a new relationship?

ودي ولا? دي مع الوقت. دي مع الوقت دي على حسب نسبة كل واحدة

Do you want it or not? It depends on time. It depends on time, and it depends on the ratio of each one.

على حسب هو انا جاهز ولا? اعطي الروح كل وقت. بالزبط. بس نرجع

Is he ready or not? I give my soul all the time. Exactly. But let’s go back.

للاول زي ما انا قلت ما تدخلش علاقة عشان انت تخيص حد. اوكي. ما

For the first part, as I said, don't get into a relationship just to impress someone. Okay. What?

تدخليش علاقة علشان انت عايز تشغلي وقتك. اهم. طلع يعرفي ناس

Don't enter a relationship just because you want to occupy your time. It's important. Get to know people.

جديدة. تعرفي على ناس جديدة. اعملي حاجة جديدة كان نفسك تعمليها.

New. Meet new people. Do something new that you’ve always wanted to do.

اوكي. ما تفكرش في الشخص التاني ما تلبسش لبس مسلا انت ما تلبسيش

Okay. Don't think about the other person; don't wear something that you wouldn't wear.

لبس عشان تخيصيه عشان هو كان بيقول لك ما تلبسيوش ما انت

He wore it because he was telling you not to wear it, so you shouldn’t.

هتلبسيه. اوكي. لان هو زي ما بقول الرجل ما بيسيب والله العظيم

You will wear it. Okay. Because as I say, a man doesn't let go, I swear to God.

بيسيب. اوكي. مش فادئ لي. عايز ترجع مش عايز ارجع انا عايز ارحل

I don't care. Okay. It's not beneficial for me. You want to go back, I don't want to go back, I want to leave.

نفسيا. اوكي. بس برضو بوليني على المرحلة العمرية تفكير راجل

Psychologically. Okay. But still, tell me about the age stage of a man's thinking.

بيختلف ما تقدرش تقارن ما بين طفل آآ لسه عنده خمستاشر ستاشر

It's different; you can't compare a child who is still fifteen or sixteen.

سنة واحدة عنده اتنين وعشرين واحدة عنده تلاتين واحدة عنده

One is twenty-two, one is thirty, one is...

اربعين. طبعا. تختلف. هو مر باقيه ورطبته بحد شبهكو يا جماعة.

Forty. Of course. It varies. It has remained moist, similar to your group, guys.

اوه محلال كلمة. رطبته بحد شبهكو. شبهكو في المستوى التعليمي

Oh, a delicious word. I flavored it with your resemblance. Your resemblance in the educational level.

المد الاجتماعي. تربية. تربية. بالاحلام. احلام. فما نقاط قوة في

Social movement. Education. Education. In dreams. Dreams. So what are the strengths in

العلاقة تولي. بالضبط. احسن ما ترتبطوا بحد وفي الاخر مش هيكام

The relationship is temporary. Exactly. It’s better not to get involved with someone and then in the end, it won't work out.

الحرام دلوقتي. اللي بيتعب على فكرة اللي بيخسر الاتنين في

It's forbidden now. The one who struggles, by the way, is the one who loses both.

العمر بس الست بتخسر اكتر. للاسف. مؤمن بالحق. آآ كانت آآ حلقة

Age just makes the woman lose more. Unfortunately. I believe in the truth. It was an episode.

هكا. عناس اكثر من ساعة.

Like this. People for more than an hour.

حسيت. نشكرك. برشا برشا برشا نؤمن زعبل. آآ كانت آآ كان

I felt it. Thank you. We believe a lot, a lot, a lot in Za'bal. Ah, it was, ah, it was.

بودكاست تونسي مصري آآ بين اه مرأة وراجل. آآ فيه برشا هكا

A Tunisian-Egyptian podcast about the relationship between a man and a woman. It has a lot of this.

كمية ممكن من اكثر من المعلومات العالمية وهذي اللي حبيته يوصل.

A possible amount of more than global information, and this is what I loved to convey.

آآ ان شاء الله استمتعتوا. آآ نزيتي بابش تحطونا في الكومنتير

Ah, God willing, you enjoyed it. Ah, please feel free to leave your comments.

الموضوع متاع الحلقة الجاية. ان شاء الله ونستمتعوا.

The topic of the next episode. God willing, we'll enjoy it.

نتقابل في حلقة جديدة من كاتب معكم عالية حكيم من قدم الميكرو.

We meet in a new episode of Writer with you, Alya Hakim, from behind the microphone.