Ryan Says to You

子先生Ryan

Ryan Says to You

I will follow you

I will follow you.

Follow you wherever you may go

Follow you wherever you may go.

There isn't a notion too deep

There isn't a concept too profound.

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同你一起等待夏天的过去

Waiting with you for the summer to pass.

近期地震频发

Recent earthquakes have been frequent.

台风肆虐

Typhoon rampages.

还希望天灾没有给你的生活

I hope natural disasters haven't affected your life.

带来太多的麻烦

Bringing too much trouble.

在和大家阔别的时日中

In the days we have been apart from everyone.

不论你是在充实假期

Whether you are enriching your holiday

还是奋力工作

Still striving to work hard.

又或是投入学业

Or invest in studies.

或者是其他等等

Or something else, etc.

都希望算是有所收获的

Everyone hopes to gain something from it.

那么至于我呢

What about me then?

怀着万般感恩和欣喜的心情

With a heart full of gratitude and joy.

想和大家分享的是

What I want to share with everyone is

Ryan也就是我

Ryan is me.

终于在独处两年

Finally alone for two years.

过去

Past

过后开始了新的恋爱生活

A new romantic life began afterwards.

其实确定关系不过一种犹豫而已

In fact, defining a relationship is just a kind of hesitation.

但恰好是逢七夕情人节

But it just so happens to be the Qixi Festival.

也因为这种种奇迹

Also because of these various miracles.

让我想要再一次通过文字创作

Let me want to create through writing once again.

来表述一些自己的心情和想法

Come and express some of your feelings and thoughts.

订阅我的频道

Subscribe to my channel.

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Like, repost, and support Mingjing and the Diandian program with donations.

感谢收看

Thank you for watching.

我们下期再见

See you next time.

拜拜

Goodbye

一位有所提及的男孩子

A boy who was mentioned.

暂且称他为Rigan

Let's temporarily call him Rigan.

那个时候我说

At that time, I said.

他是我内心牵挂的人

He is the person I care about deeply in my heart.

也相信我们彼此

Also believe in each other.

会持续产生感情的交流和回应

There will be ongoing emotional exchanges and responses.

但在那个阶段

But at that stage.

我们是没有办法达到恋爱高度的

We are unable to reach the heights of a romantic relationship.

也许当下拥有的

Perhaps what we have at this moment.

就是我们能够得到的最好

It's the best we can get.

于是选择了暂且止步

So I chose to take a temporary pause.

有意无意地去维护

Intentionally or unintentionally maintain.

顺其自然就好

Just go with the flow.

虽然是很通俗的四个字

Although it's a very common four-character phrase.

但我却很难给予他们更多的期望

But I find it difficult to give them more expectations.

那么上一次的录制呢

So what about the last recording?

已经是三个月之前的事情了

It was already three months ago.

这期间我们经历的

What we experienced during this period.

可不只是简单地

Not just simply.

给了互相一个男朋友的称号

Gave each other the title of boyfriend.

如此而已

That's all.

其实我们认识一年多了

Actually, we have known each other for more than a year.

聚少离多

Gathering less, parting more.

甚至在最开始认识

Even at the very beginning of getting to know each other.

就相互吸引的时候呢

It's when mutual attraction occurs.

我就不得不因为学业而远赴美国

I had to go to the United States for my studies.

回到美国

Return to the United States.

那个时候其实还算是半个陌生人吧

At that time, we were actually still kind of strangers.

我们对于彼此的存在

Our existence for each other.

和太多通讯录里的聊天对象

And with too many contacts in the address book.

或者暧昧对象

Or ambiguous partner.

差别不太大的

Not much of a difference.

当时的感情基础

The emotional foundation at that time.

没有让我对他有太多的

Did not make me have too much of a...

感情的设想

The imagination of emotions.

但是时差和距离

But the time difference and distance.

却从不曾消磨这一份好感

Yet this fondness has never faded.

所以半年之后

So six months later.

2016年的冬季

Winter of 2016

我回到中国的那一个月

The month I returned to China.

我们的关系

Our relationship

有了质的升温

There has been a qualitative warming.

我们开始往恋人的方向

We start moving towards the direction of lovers.

越靠越近

Getting closer and closer.

彼此有了更深的了解

A deeper understanding of each other.

更频繁的往来

More frequent exchanges.

也有了更迫切的依赖

There is also a more urgent dependency.

我们的关系

Our relationship.

但是我们也多少有所保留

But we have also reserved some things.

因为害怕

Because of fear.

过多的投入是徒劳

Excessive investment is futile.

最终带来不必要的伤害

Ultimately causing unnecessary harm.

冬季假期结束

Winter holiday is over.

我离开中国的前一天

The day before I left China.

他问我说

He asked me.

你为什么都没有想过

Why haven't you ever thought about it?

好好认识我

Get to know me well.

我说我不需要去了解一个人

I said I don't need to get to know a person.

没有什么好说的

There's nothing much to say.

我只想了解一个人

I just want to understand one person.

我相信隐藏必然有原因

I believe there must be a reason for hiding.

深究无疑

There is no doubt about it.

他苦笑了一下

He smiled wryly.

我也不知道这一番

I also don't know about this.

庇护着我胆怯的话

Protecting my timid words.

有没有能够说服他

Is there a way to convince him?

我们之间有不成文的约定

We have an unwritten agreement between us.

成为默契

Become tacit understanding.

就是当彼此不在互相的身边

It's when each other is not by each other's side.

个人是有自由

Individuals have freedom.

去发展新的关系

Go develop new relationships.

甚至恋情的

Even romantic relationships.

因为我们并非恋人

Because we are not lovers.

换句话说

In other words.

就算是有一方恋爱了

Even if one party is in love.

另一方并没有资格

The other party does not have the qualification.

去表达不满

Express dissatisfaction.

所以不是关系赋予我们权利

So it's not relationships that grant us rights.

而恰恰是关系

It is precisely the relationship.

限制了我们的立场

Limited our position.

在我们2017年上半年

In the first half of 2017.

分离的时光当中

In the time of separation.

其实各自都有

In fact, each has its own.

和其他人有所接触了

Had contact with other people.

他甚至有产生恋情

He even had the possibility of developing a romance.

我也有约会

I have a date too.

虽然我们当时并没有坦诚

Although we didn't speak candidly at that time.

这一切

All of this.

但至少我们的关系保持的

But at least our relationship is maintained.

很和平

Very peaceful.

是关系我们的关系

It is the relationship that concerns us.

和另一方的关系

The relationship with the other party.

我们才能和他们一起

Only then can we be with them.

揭秘

Unveiling

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About networking

点击电脑

Click the computer.

并订阅我们的频道

And subscribe to our channel.

可以多获更多关系

You can gain more relationships.

我们也希望

We also hope.

今天我们能够

Today we are able to

在这个关系中

In this relationship.

能够对待

Able to treat

在自己的关系中

In one's own relationship.

和在社群上

And on social media

比较紧密的关系

A relatively close relationship.

而也能够

and also able to

更有信心

More confident.

在未来的关系中

In future relationships.

也能够

Also able to.

更加关心

Care more.

主观这种关系

Subjective relationship.

在今晚两个月之内

In the next two months.

举起很多的项目

Raise many projects.

在我在国家作品中

In my national works.

今年四月底

At the end of April this year.

我回国的时候

When I return to my country.

她在武汉天河机场等候我

She is waiting for me at Wuhan Tianhe Airport.

成为我回国见到的第一个亲友

You will be the first friend I see when I return to my country.

感动之余呢

In addition to being moved.

当晚也是我们相互坦白

That night, we also confided in each other.

双方在之前都有其他感情

Both parties had other romantic relationships before.

这件事的时刻

The moment of this event.

两个人当然都不是很开心听到这些

Of course, neither of the two people are very happy to hear this.

但也能够做到相互理解

But it can also achieve mutual understanding.

所以并没有造成什么困扰

So it didn't cause any trouble.

我们就一直相安无事

We have always lived in peace without any troubles.

保持到了我上一次录制电台的时间节点

It was maintained until the time point of my last radio recording.

我最后说

I'll say it one last time.

顺其自然吧

Let it be.

虽然我没有给予这个词太多期许

Although I didn't have high expectations for this word.

说这句话其实听起来并不太乐观

This sentence actually sounds rather pessimistic.

原因是

The reason is

我们当时正在经历前所未有的矛盾

We were experiencing unprecedented contradictions at that time.

而且因为酒精的缘故

And also because of the alcohol.

被我一再的激化

Intensified repeatedly by me.

现在想起那一次发脾气

Now thinking back to that time I got angry.

感觉好像一场闹剧

It feels like a farce.

具体发生了什么

What exactly happened?

我也没有必要在这里赘述

I also don't need to elaborate on this here.

大概就是我们当时探讨

It's probably what we discussed at that time.

的时候没有办法达到在同一个频道

At that time, there was no way to be on the same channel.

她觉得我撕咬着一件鸡毛蒜皮的事情

She feels that I am biting into a trivial matter.

而小题大做

Making a big deal out of a small issue.

无理取闹

Making unreasonable trouble.

而我觉得事情无关大小

I believe that the matter is not about size.

而最重要的一件事

And the most important thing.

是原则

It is a principle.

那个时候我话说得挺难听的

I spoke quite harshly back then.

我的原话是

My original words are.

你可以和一万个人睡觉

You can sleep with ten thousand people.

这是一件大事

This is a big deal.

但我管不着

But I can't control it.

因为我们不是情侣关系

Because we are not in a romantic relationship.

但说话不算话

But talking doesn't count.

叫做实言

It is called "Shi Yan."

这就是有失原则

This is a departure from principle.

我最生气的点不在于

What angers me the most is not that...

她没有遵守自己说的话

She did not keep her word.

也更不在于

It also does not depend on.

那几件事情本身

Those few things themselves.

而在于她对我传达的

It lies in what she conveys to me.

感觉

Feeling

观念的不理解

Misunderstanding of concepts

也就是不在同一个维度的交流

It is communication that is not in the same dimension.

让我觉得有

Makes me feel like there is.

鸡同鸭讲的感觉

The feeling of talking at cross purposes.

好在风暴来得快

Fortunately, the storm came quickly.

去得也快

It goes by quickly.

那算是第一次吵架吧

That can be considered our first argument, right?

却加固了我们的感情

But it strengthened our relationship.

因为从侧面看到了

Because I saw it from the side.

我们的一些性格缺陷

Some of our personality flaws.

这样

Like this.

我们维护关系的方向

The direction of our relationship maintenance.

就更明确了

It became even clearer.

因为知道有哪些

Because I know what there is.

是需要归来的

It is necessary to return.

但是呢

However,

我们花最多心思的

The thing we put the most effort into.

并非是如何去维持这段关系

It is not about how to maintain this relationship.

而是去享受

But to enjoy.

我们的性格

Our personality

喜好

Preference

难能可贵的吻合

A rare and precious alignment.

带给我们值得享受的时光

Bringing us moments worth enjoying.

比如音乐类型

For example, music genres.

酒的款式

Types of wine

食物的口味

The taste of food.

消遣的方式

Ways of leisure

等等

Wait a moment.

而最令我欣慰的

What comforts me the most

是她对我

It is her towards me.

价值观的感受

Feelings about values

肯定和欣赏

Affirmation and appreciation.

有件事情很妙

There is something very妙.

就是瑞根

It's just Reagan.

时常在

Often present

特别是喝酒的时候

Especially when drinking.

抛给我一些

Throw me some.

极其宽泛的问题

Extremely broad question.

让我做到

Let me do it.

比如

For example

人生的意义

The meaning of life

这种平时

This kind of routine.

我根本就没有心情和人

I have no mood to interact with anyone at all.

一五一十

One by one; in detail.

梳理内容的话题

Sorting out the topics of the content.

但借着酒精

But through alcohol

面对喜欢的人

Facing someone you like.

却可以

But it can.

侃侃而谈

Talk freely and confidently.

好一会儿

A long while.

我说人生的意义

I said the meaning of life.

对于我就是

For me, that's it.

观念的实现

Realization of ideas

凡事还是不要看得太开

Some things shouldn't be taken too lightly.

用俗气的话来讲

To put it in a cliché way

就是

Just.

人生值得享受的是

Life is worth enjoying is

旅途

Journey

而非目的地

Rather than the destination.

因为

Because

一切看破

Everything is seen through.

最终不就是

In the end, it's just...

尘归尘

Dust to dust.

土归土

Dust to dust.

而驱使自己

And drive oneself.

选择道路的动力

The driving force of choosing a path.

就在于价值观

It lies in the values.

而观念的形成

The formation of ideas.

自然就是

Nature is.

见识和

knowledge and

交际网络

Social network

潜移默化的影响

Subtle and gradual influence.

这都取决于你的追求

It all depends on your pursuits.

可以是财富

It can be wealth.

或是权势

Or power.

还有学识

There is also knowledge.

还有爱情

There is still love.

爱情等等

Love, etc.

所以

每一步方向

Every step direction

每一个人的结交

The connections of each person.

都需要衡量和斟酌

All need to be measured and considered.

因为

Because

观念源于选择

Concepts originate from choices.

而选择

And choose

也影响观念

It also influences perceptions.

一点一滴

Drop by drop.

都是对自我价值的实现

It is all about the realization of self-worth.

而人生走过

And life goes on.

不就是这千万个瞬间的积累

Isn't it just the accumulation of countless moments?

这对于我

This is for me.

就是人生意义的所在

It is the essence of the meaning of life.

也许我的言语不足以说出这些话

Perhaps my words are not enough to express these sentiments.

但如果观察我的生活状态

But if you observe my life situation

就可以感知

can perceive

他说

He said.

那你的价值观呢

Then what about your values?

我说我不喜欢

I said I don't like it.

无谓的付出

Unnecessary sacrifice

社交也好

Socializing is fine too.

工作也好

Work is also good.

如果没有收获

If there are no gains.

都是对时光的辜负

It is all a betrayal of time.

所谓收获

What is called harvest.

并不单单是指

It is not merely referring to.

有什么实质上的获得

What substantial gains are there?

比方说

For example

我在一个人生中

In one lifetime.

我和一个朋友的

Mine and a friend's.

培训机构做

Training institution does

音乐老师

Music teacher

一个月

One month

我拒绝了薪资

I declined the salary.

但我将自己的知识

But I will share my knowledge.

输出给学生

Output to students

或许在成就他们的留学道路上

Perhaps on the path to achieving their study abroad ambitions.

添砖加瓦

Add bricks and tiles.

这种对

This is correct.

他人人生有所

Others have their own lives.

贡献的成就感和自豪感

The sense of achievement and pride in contributions.

就是收获

It's harvest.

另一方面来看

On the other hand

我解决了

I have solved it.

我和我的朋友

My friend and I.

十字锦阙的燃眉之急

The urgent need of the Crossed Brocade Pavilion.

这

This

加固了我们的友谊

Strengthened our friendship.

这也是收获

This is also a harvest.

如果这些学生

If these students

顺利去到他们理想的所在

Smoothly arrive at the place they aspire to be.

比如澳洲

For example, Australia.

美国

United States

欧洲

Europe

或者是选择留在国内

Or choose to stay in the country.

我也丰富了

I have also enriched myself.

自己在这个世界的人脉

Connections in this world

这更是收获

This is even more of a harvest.

什么叫无谓的付出

What is meant by futile effort?

无谓的付出呢

What about the pointless sacrifices?

就好比我收到一个邀请

It's like I received an invitation.

是去到一个酒局

It's going to a drinking party.

我需要去消费表情和经历

I need to spend on expressions and experiences.

去维持面子

To maintain face.

我可能被一群陌生人

I might be among a group of strangers.

灌得零零大醉

Drunk to the point of being utterly wasted.

到最后我既没有交到朋友

In the end, I didn't make any friends.

也没有享受

Did not enjoy either.

这一段时光

This period of time

还可能弄坏自己的身体

It may also harm one's own body.

这对于我

This is for me.

就是没有必要的付出

It's just unnecessary effort.

这是两个比较

This is a comparison between two.

具象化的例子

Concrete examples.

我想去传达的意思就是

What I want to convey is that

人要时常有长进

A person should always strive for progress.

时间对于我

Time for me

不应该只是流逝

It shouldn't just pass by.

而是

but rather

而更是灌输我的成长

And it has further instilled my growth.

在这个过程中

In this process

我甚至希望能够带给周遭的人

I even hope to bring it to the people around me.

一些正面的影响

Some positive impacts.

这不是所谓救世主的姿态

This is not the posture of a so-called savior.

去带领身边的人

Go lead the people around you.

达到我理想的愿望

Achieve my ideal wish.

而是一种分享

But rather it's a form of sharing.

和相互进步的想法

The idea of mutual progress.

这就是我的价值观

This is my value system.

他很感激我言论的慷慨

He is very grateful for the generosity of my remarks.

我也谢谢他

I also thank him.

对这一切的认可

Recognition of all this.

可是话锋一转他却问道

But then he suddenly changed the subject and asked.

那我又带给你什么

Then what have I brought you?

你付出这么多

You've given so much.

有得到你所期许的收获吗

Have you achieved the results you hoped for?

我说

I said.

傻瓜

Fool

你让我看到爱情

You make me see love.

还能有什么

What else can there be?

是不值得的吗

Is it not worth it?

这一首是来自

This one is from

我和Rick and Doe非常崇拜的

Rick and Doe and I admire very much.

偶像

Idol

邓丽君小姐的

Miss Teresa Teng's

翻唱作品

Cover work

I have never been to me

I have never been to me.

Rick and Doe在我看来是一个年轻而为的男孩子

In my view, Rick and Doe are young and capable boys.

小小年纪就在

At such a young age, already...

咖啡行业有所造诣

The coffee industry has some achievements.

他的胆识

His courage and wisdom.

并非

Not really.

沉浸

Immerse

可以衡量

Can be measured.

所以我欣赏他

So I admire him.

不久前我们驱车四个小时去到他的咖啡厅

Not long ago, we drove four hours to his coffee shop.

那是我第一次

That was my first time.

看到他的

Seeing his

心血之所在

Where the heart and soul reside.

晚上我们在他最喜欢的小酒馆

In the evening, we are at his favorite tavern.

畅饮

Drink freely.

我们和调酒的先生

We and the bartender.

相谈甚欢

Had a pleasant conversation.

给每一款酒

Give each type of wine.

都赋予了一个

All have been endowed with a.

只属于我们自己的故事

A story that belongs only to us.

我们说有的像

We say some are like.

娇艳却风尘的女性

A charming yet world-weary woman.

有的

Some.

像是

Like or similar to.

求别重逢的故友

A request to reunite with an old friend.

也尝到

also tasted

好自初恋的感觉

The feeling of a first love is so good.

平静

Calm

微醺之美

The beauty of being slightly tipsy.

也就是在那个当下

It was at that moment.

他对我说

He said to me.

Ryan

可以的话

If possible.

做我的妹妹了吧

Be my sister, okay?

我说

I said.

好啊

Alright!

Why not

为什么不呢？

听起来蛮草率的

Sounds rather hasty.

清醒过后呢我们探讨了接下来的

After waking up, we discussed what was next.

相处模式

Interaction mode

决定目前还是不要和之前

Decide not to go back to the way things were for now.

有太大的差异

There is too much disparity.

也就是

That is to say

还是可以去

It's still possible to go.

遇见更多人

Meet more people.

对方在理解的基础上呢也不会说什么

The other party won't say much based on their understanding.

因为已经形成了

Because it has already formed.

契约

Contract

看起来我们除了确定关系之外

It seems that besides establishing a relationship, we...

没有别的变化

No other changes.

外界

outside world

可以这样认为

It can be viewed this way.

但我会觉得

But I would feel

本质上是有区别的

There is essentially a difference.

先前

Previously

可以这么做是因为

It can be done because

没有约束

No constraints.

而现在是得到了

And now it has been obtained.

彼此赋予的权利

The rights granted to each other.

先前不说

Not mentioned earlier.

是因为没有资格和立场

It is because there is no qualification and position.

现在

Now

是因为

It's because.

包容所以没有必要

Tolerance makes it unnecessary.

总之

In short.

我很开心

I am very happy.

感情生活

Love life

实际上有新的开始

In fact, there is a new beginning.

我很爱他

I love him very much.

这点我毫不保留

I have no reservations about this.

但我不选择

But I do not choose.

完全的占用

Complete occupation

只希望这份感情

I only hope for this relationship.

可以一直在

Can always be there.

我一个呢

I have one.