n.112 一貫性をもつこと。

みなさんこんにちは 海外で日本語育児 言語技術 日本語教師のほたんかんです

Hello everyone, I'm Hotan Kan, a Japanese language teacher specializing in Japanese language upbringing and language skills abroad.

今日はですね 一貫性を持つことっていうことで お話をしていきたいなと思います

Today, I would like to talk about having consistency.

そう 一貫性って言うとさ いろんなことが 一貫性だけじゃ何もわからんわって話なんだけど

Yeah, when it comes to consistency, there are all sorts of things, but just having consistency alone doesn’t explain anything.

まずね 何を やっぱりこの 今回は子育て 娘とのやり取りですね

First of all, what I want to talk about is parenting and my interactions with my daughter this time.

ということでやっていきたい やっていきたいとお話ししていきたいんですけど

So I'd like to go ahead and talk about it.

先日ね 娘と靴を買いに行こうということで 靴が壊れちゃったから 履きつぶされちゃって

The other day, I decided to go buy shoes with my daughter because my shoes were broken and worn out.

靴を買いに行こうということでですね 靴を買いに行ったわけなんですよね

We decided to go buy some shoes, so we went to buy shoes.

で そうしたらですね なんとアナとエルサのカバンがありまして

And then, believe it or not, there was a bag with Anna and Elsa on it.

で アナとエルサのカバンが欲しいって言うから じゃあ靴は買わないよっていうことで

So when they said they wanted Anna and Elsa's bags, I said, "Well then, we're not buying shoes."

靴を買わないで そのカバンを買ったんですね

You bought that bag instead of buying shoes, huh?

で カバンを買って あとはもう 今日は本当は靴を買いに来たんだけれども

So I bought a bag, and actually, I came here today to buy shoes.

カバンが欲しいって言うから カバンを買って 靴を買って 靴を買ったんですね

You said you wanted a bag, so I bought a bag, and then I bought shoes, and bought shoes again, didn't I?

カバンを買う 靴はもう買いませんということで 違うお店に行ったんですけれども

I went to a different store because I said I would buy a bag and not buy shoes anymore.

そしたら その違うお店にね 可愛いシールが売っていたんですよ 売ってたの

Then, at that different store, there were cute stickers for sale.

でね そのシールっていうのは 300円ぐらいなんですよ 高が 300円ぐらい

Well, that sticker is about 300 yen, you know. Just about 300 yen.

だから別にこちらとしては 買ってあげてもいいんだけども

So, it's not that we wouldn't mind buying it for you, but...

でも もともと今日は靴を買いに行くということで 靴を買いに行ったのに

But originally, I went out to buy shoes today, and I ended up buying shoes.

下娘は靴よりもカバンが欲しい 穴行きのカバンが欲しいということで

The younger daughter wants a bag more than shoes; she wants a bag from the movie "Frozen."

じゃあ靴を買わずに カバンを買ったっていうことなんですよね

So that means you bought a bag instead of shoes, right?

そう 話し合いの結果ね

Yes, as a result of our discussion.

で そのカバンを買ったんだけど 次の店でどうして欲しいシールがあったの 300円の

I bought that bag, but at the next store, there was a sticker I wanted that cost 300 yen.

で 親としては 300円だから 払ってもいいかなと思うんですよね

As a parent, I think it's okay to pay 300 yen.

だけども でもそこで立ち止まって いやいや 今日は靴を買いに来た

But still, I stopped there, and no, no, I came to buy shoes today.

だけど靴はいらないから カバンが欲しいと交渉され じゃあカバンにしたと

But since I didn't need shoes, I negotiated for a bag, so I decided to go with the bag.

で 今日はもうこれ以上何も買わないっていうことだったのに シールが欲しいって言われて

So, even though I said I wouldn't buy anything more today, I was told I want the sticker.

ということで あ シール欲しいんだねと

So, you want a sticker, huh?

でもそのシールを買うんだったら このカバンはもう返してくるよ

But if I'm going to buy that sticker, I'll just return this bag.

だって今日はさ もともと靴を買いに来た

Well, I originally came to buy shoes today.

でも靴はいらない このカバンが欲しいって言ってもらわなかった

But I don't need shoes; I didn't get asked if I wanted this bag.

で 今日はそれ以上何も買わないって言ったから このシールは買えないよね

So I said I wouldn't buy anything more than that today, so I can't buy this sticker, right?

もしこのシールを買うんだったら このカバンは返してこなきゃいけないよって言ったんですね

You said that if I buy this sticker, I have to return this bag.

で そうしたら娘がそれでいいと

So then my daughter said that was fine.

それでいいと

That's fine.

そうしてでもやっぱりそのシールの

Even so, that sticker...

いいことだったので

It was a good thing.

あのね その300円のシールを買ったんですね

You know, I bought that 300 yen sticker.

で 5倍以上する金額の あの雪のですね

That's the amount for that snow, which is more than five times.

あの 基板をですね 前のお店まで戻ってですね

"Um, I need to go back to the previous store for that circuit board."

返したっていう話なんですけども

It's a story about having returned it.

まあこの話をするとですね

Well, if I start talking about this...

まあいろんな声が聞こえてきそうだなとは思うんですが

Well, I think I can hear various voices coming in.

あのね 300円くらいのシールだから買ったらいいじゃんっていうふうに思われる方も結構いるのかなと思います

Well, I think there are quite a few people who might think, "It's just a 300 yen sticker, so why not just buy it?"

でも私は実際 心の中ではこれぐらい買ってもいいかなとは思ったんですけど

But deep down, I thought it would be okay to buy something like this.

でもやっぱりそこでいつも私が心に留めているのがやっぱり

But what I always keep in mind there is after all...

基板制っていうのを私は個人的にすごく大事にしていて

I personally value something called circuit board very much.

やっぱりその約束したこととか一緒に決めたことっていうのをやっぱり守るっていうのがすごく大事なことで

After all, keeping promises and things we decide together is really important.

で 私はそういうのをやっぱり守るっていうのがすごく大事なことで

So I think it's really important to uphold those kinds of things.

これは提示でですね

This is a presentation.

やっぱりおうち日本語とか

After all, home Japanese or something like that.

習慣化していく

To make it a habit.

何かを決めて習慣化していく

Deciding on something and making it a habit.

プロセスの中でも

Even in the process

やっぱり一貫性っていうのは

After all, consistency is...

すごく大事だなと思っているんですよね

I think it's really important.

例えばそのおうち日本語の方の話に

For example, in the case of that house, in the conversation with the Japanese speaker.

ちょっと移るんですけど

I'm going to move a little.

例えば毎日少しでもやる

For example, do a little bit every day.

っていうのを決めている

I am deciding on that.

だけれども何かイレギュラーなことがあって

However, there was something irregular that happened.

朝できない

I can't do it in the morning.

我が家は朝やってるので

Our family does it in the morning.

朝できないっていう時には

When you can't do it in the morning,

そのできないねって思った時点で

At the moment you think "I can't do that,"

いつやるのかというのを話し合って決めておく

We will discuss and decide when to do it.

例えば学校が終わったのか

For example, is school over?

夜か明日

Tonight or tomorrow

今日の分もちょっと多くやるとか

Maybe do a little more than usual today.

っていうことを決めて必ずやる

I will definitely do what I've decided.

っていうことですね

That's what it means.

それ以外やっぱり例外はない

There are no exceptions other than that.

それ以外例外はないっていう風に決めておくんですよね

You set it up so that there are no exceptions other than that.

で

Then

やっぱりその例外とか

After all, those exceptions and such.

もともと言ったことと

What I originally said

違うことをOKにしてしまうと

If you allow different things to be okay, then...

例外って

What is an exception?

どこまでも増えていってしまうんですよね

It keeps increasing endlessly, doesn't it?

ルールと一緒で

Just like the rules.

ルールっていうものを決めるじゃないですか

You set rules, don't you?

こうするっていう風に決めたら

Once you decide to do it this way,

できるだけやっぱり例外っていうものは

As much as possible, exceptions are something that...

ない方がいいんですよ

It's better not to have it.

例外を一つでも作ってしまうと

Once you create even one exception,

あれがOKだったからちょっとずれた

That was okay, so it got a little off.

これもOKだよねとか

This is okay too, right?

じゃあこれはどうなるんだろう

So what will happen with this?

全部OKだねみたいになっちゃってね

It's like everything is okay, huh?

なかなかその習慣化であったりとか

It's quite about that habit formation or something like that.

必ず取り組むっていうところに

It's about committing to it without fail.

いけなくなってしまうんですね

I won't be able to go, huh?

で

So

もちろんそのおうち日本語

Of course, that house is in Japanese.

っていう話ではあるんですけど

It's a story like that, but...

おうち日本語ってさ

"Home Japanese, you know?"

生活の流れの中の一つの時間だから

Because it is one moment within the flow of life.

おうち日本語だけ

Only Japanese at home.

ルールをガチッと決めて

Set the rules firmly.

その他の行動

Other actions

例えばお買い物に行くときとか

For example, when going shopping.

何か遊びに行くときとかね

Like when going out to play or something.

日々生活の中でも

Even in daily life

日々の生活の中では

In daily life,

好き放題というかね

It's like doing whatever you want.

何でもOKにして

Make everything okay.

日本語の学習を

Learning Japanese

それだけはこういうふうに

Just that in this way.

ガチッと決めてしまうっていうのも

It's also about making a firm decision.

なかなか難しいんです

It's quite difficult.

なかなか難しい

It's quite difficult.

結局その親と子のコミュニケーションとか

Ultimately, the communication between that parent and child, or...

やりとりがあって

After some back and forth.

習慣化されていくものだから

Because it becomes a habit.

やっぱりどうしても自然と

After all, it can't be helped but to naturally...

親子の関わりの中で

In the context of parent-child relationships.

日々のベース

Daily base

日々の流れの中で

In the flow of daily life.

やっぱり一回決めたこととか

After all, once you've made a decision...

きちんとお話しして決めたことっていうのは

The things that we have properly discussed and decided on are...

よほどのことがない限り

Unless there is something particularly significant.

そうしていく

I will do it like that.

っていうのは

What I mean is

一貫性ですね

It's consistency, isn't it?

そういう日々の生活の中での

In the daily life of such days.

一貫性があってこそ

It is precisely because there is consistency.

やっぱりそのおうち日本語の

After all, that house is Japanese.

習慣化であったりとか

You mean something like habits.

必ずこれはやるっていうところに

"This is definitely something I will do."

取り組みやすくなっていくものだと

It becomes easier to tackle.

思っているんですね

You are thinking, aren't you?

私は

I am.

なので

So.

ちょっと広げましたけれども

I made it a little wider.

おうち日本語を習慣化していくためにも

In order to make practicing Japanese at home a habit.

毎日おうち日本語を10分やる

Practice Japanese at home for 10 minutes every day.

15分やる

I'll do it for 15 minutes.

その時間を作るために

In order to make that time.

やっぱりその

As I thought, that...

手前にある

In front of you.

日々のやり取りですね

It's a daily interaction, isn't it?

例えば今日はこれを買いに行く

For example, today I'm going to buy this.

これだけを買いに行くって言ったら

If I said I was going just to buy this...

まずその日はそれだけを買う

First, I will only buy that on that day.

あるいはじゃあ今日は遊びに行くから

Well then, I'm going to go out and have some fun today.

楽しいものがあったら

If there is something fun

あってそんなに行きたくなかったら買おうね

If you really don't want to go, let's just buy it.

っていう日であれば買う

If it's that kind of day, then I'll buy it.

別に2個でも3個でも買おう

I can buy two or three if I want.

そういう風に決めて動いていくっていうのは

Deciding to move forward in that way is

お互いやりやすいしね

It makes it easier for both of us, right?

今日はそう決めたからこうだよね

Since I've decided that today, it's like this, right?

今日は自由に遊べる日だから

Today is a day to play freely.

おもちゃを買う

Buy a toy.

今日は何かいいものがあったら買うって言ってたから

You said you would buy something nice if you found it today.

例えばそこで決めちゃってもいいと思う

For example, I think it's okay to decide there.

2個とか3個

Two or three.

今日は可愛くて欲しいものがあったら

If you see something cute that you want today

3個まで買ってもいいよ

You can buy up to three.

っていう風に決めてやっぱり出かける

I decided to go out after all.

スーパーに行く時も

Even when I go to the supermarket.

今日はお菓子1個だよとか

Today it's just one piece of candy.

今日はお菓子3つまでだよって決めて

Today, I've decided that I can have up to three snacks.

やっぱり入る

It turns out I will enter after all.

そういう風に

In that way

カチカチしてるように見えるでしょ

It looks like I'm stiff, right?

カチカチしてるように見えるんだけどね

It looks like it's stiffening up, doesn't it?

別に縛ってるわけじゃないんですよ

It's not like I'm tying you up or anything.

そういう風にね

In that way, you know.

そういう風に決めることによって

By deciding in that way

お互い楽なんです

It's easy for both of us.

ストレスが減るんです

It reduces stress.

そういう風に取り決めたことを

Things that have been decided in that way.

必ずそういう風に実行するっていう風に

I will definitely carry it out that way.

お互いね

Mutually, huh?

理解して納得していくと

As you understand and come to agree with it,

基本的にその決めたことっていうのは

Basically, the things that were decided are...

守るんだっていうのが

It's about protecting.

習慣化されて

To be habituated

それもやっぱりマインドとしてね

That's also a mindset, after all.

セットされていくから

Because it will be set.

マインドセットされていくから

Because it is becoming a mindset.

それを続ければ続けるほどですね

The more you continue that, the more...

いろんなことが習慣化しやすくなるし

It becomes easier to make various things habitual.

続きやすくなりますよ

It will become easier to continue.

続きやすくなりますよね

It becomes easier to continue, doesn't it?

なのでね

So, you see...

この話を聞いてるだけだと

Just listening to this story...

なんか厳しいとか思っちゃうかもしれないですけど

You might think it's a bit harsh, but...

でもね

But you know,

これはね

This is it.

結構ね

That's quite enough.

ママの身も

Mom's body

ママも

Mom too

立てしやすくなる

It becomes easier to stand up.

私も思ってます

I think so too.

結局さ

In the end, you know.

その場その場でいろいろ決めていっちゃうと

If we keep making various decisions on the spot...

こないだは良かったのに

The other day was good, but...

なんでダメ

Why not?

今日はダメなの

I can't today.

っていうことが

That means...

思っちゃうんですよね

I can't help but think that way.

で

So.

こないだは良かったのに

It was good the other day, though.

今日はどうしてダメなのっていうのは

"Why is it not okay today?"

非常に返しづらいこっち

This is really hard to respond to.

非常に返しづらい

It's very difficult to respond.

ね

Hey.

そう

Yes.

でもやっぱりそこで最初に決めておく

But still, I think it's best to decide that from the start.

今日はこうするんだ

Today we're going to do it this way.

これに対してはこうだよねっていう風に

This is how it should be, right?

お互い話して決めておいて

Let's talk and decide together.

取り組むとか

To tackle or address something.

行くとか

Going or something.

顔見る

To see someone's face.

決めるっていうことをするとですね

When you make a decision, you see,

見えやすいです

It's easy to see.

はい

Yes

ということでですね

So, what I'm saying is...

やっぱり私はその一貫性を持っている人が

After all, I am a person who has that consistency.

男性っていうものは

What men are like.

すごく大事だなと思います

I think it's very important.

一貫性を持つと

If you have consistency.

やっぱり子供との信頼関係ですね

It's all about building trust with the children, after all.

というのも構築されやすいかなと思います

I think it can be easily built.

一度決めたことをそのままやるっていうことだから

It means sticking to what you decided once.

結局子供から見た時も矛盾とか

In the end, there are also contradictions from a child's perspective.

あとはなんかあれ

And then, there's something else...

巻いてたことと違うなとか

It's different from what I was wrapping.

一回こういう風に決めたはずなのに

We were supposed to have decided on this once.

みたいな感じで思うこともなくなるし

You start to lose the feeling of thinking like that.

こちらとしても

As for us too

ちょっとこう迷うことがあっても

Even if there are times when I feel a bit lost

いやいや違う違う

No, no, that's not it.

今日は1個って決めたんだ

I decided on one for today.

いやいや買ってあげたいけど

No, no, I want to buy it for you, but...

いやいや違う

No, no, that's not it.

今日は靴を買いに来たんだ

I came to buy shoes today.

っていう風に

In that way

やっぱりこう

As I thought, this is how it is.

ラインがあるからね

Because there's a line.

そのルールがあるから

It's because that rule exists.

そこに戻って

Go back there.

迷ったとき決めやすいじゃないですか

When you're unsure, it's easier to make a decision, isn't it?

私たちも

We also.

心の中でね

In my heart.

決めやすいから

Because it's easy to decide.

どう考えても

No matter how you think about it.

そのやっぱり一貫性を持つ

That still maintains consistency.

もともと決めたもの

Originally decided things.

言ったことを

What was said.

それを貫き通すことはですね

To uphold that is...

すごく大切なことなんじゃないかな

I think it's something very important.

というお話でございました

That was the story.

でもね

But you know.

なんかさ

You know, like…

ちょっとこう安くてさ

It's a little cheap, you know.

あの可愛いものとか買っちゃってもいいかな

I wonder if it's okay to buy those cute things.

買ってあげたいなとか思うじゃん

I think about wanting to buy it for you.

ね

Right?

でも大丈夫

But it's okay.

違う日戻ればいいからまた

It's okay to come back on a different day.

違う日にさ

On a different day.

なんか今日可愛いのがあったら

If there's something cute today.

買ってみようねみたいな

Something like "Let's try buying it."

おもちゃ3つまで買ってもいいよ

You can buy up to three toys.

みたいなこと言って

Saying things like that.

また同じお店に行ったりとかすればいいわけで

It's fine to go to the same store again, or something like that.

ただ大事なのは

The only important thing is

やっぱりその日決めたことは

As I thought, what I decided that day is

その日守るっていうことですよね

It means to protect that day, right?

その日じゃなくても

Even if it's not that day.

一回決めたことは

Once you decide on something

やっぱり一貫してつらない

As expected, it's consistently tough.

一貫性ですね

It's consistency, isn't it?

っていうお話でございました

That was the story.

いかがだったでしょうか

How was it?

意識しないとね

You have to be conscious of it.

私これ結構ずっと意識してきたことです

I've been quite conscious of this for a long time.

一貫性っていうのを

The concept of consistency.

なので

So

一貫性のすごく

Great consistency

身近なとこだと

In a familiar place

まあ

Well.

毎日をおうちに訪問するっていうとこですよね

It's about visiting home every day, isn't it?

朝起きてご飯を食べたりする

I wake up in the morning and eat breakfast.

毎日するっていうことと

The fact that I do it every day and

寝る前に絵本読み聞かせるっていう

Reading picture books before bedtime.

これはやっぱり貫いていこう

I should stick with this after all.

ところですね

It’s a place.

何ができなくても

No matter what you can't do.

夜の読み聞かせはやる

I will do the nighttime storytelling.

おうちに訪問はもう5分でも10分でもいいから

It's fine if the visit to the house is just for 5 or 10 minutes.

とりあえず毎日やるですね

For now, let's do it every day.

この2つがやっぱり

These two are indeed...

軽症日本語育児の私の一貫性とか

The consistency of my light-hearted Japanese parenting, etc.

まずベースにあるんですね

First, it's based on that.

であとは

And then…

すべてを約束したことをやっぱり守る

I will keep the promise I made to do everything after all.

そうですね

That's right.

で言ったことはやっぱり受講すると

What I said is indeed true when you take the course.

どんなに小さいことでも

No matter how small it is.

そういうことはすごく意識して接しているな

I’m really conscious about interacting in that way.

というところでございます

That is the situation.

皆さんはいかがだったでしょうか

How was everyone?

というか

I mean, / Or rather, / To put it another way,

いかがでしょうか

How is it?

今日も最後まで聞いていただきまして

Thank you for listening until the end today as well.

ありがとうございました

Thank you very much.

今日1日のおうち日本語が

Today's home Japanese.

10年後の日本語力につながりますように

I hope this leads to your Japanese proficiency in 10 years.

失礼いたします

Excuse me.